I'm Leaving Ptsdforum.com

[Deleted member 12723]

I likr the rules here. This is the safest most harmonious site I ever had the pleasure of belonging to. When I first came it was alittle rough for me as I am pc illiterate. I was quoting whole posts and did not know how to correct it. I did know there was a help desk. Needless to say I got banned for a week. I learned really fast. Now when I have a problem, I go to the help desk.

I am sad that you are not happy here. Since I have signed up my healing has been on the fast track, I overcame a driving phobia, and have made some wonderful friends here. I love that it is the way it is. If you do what is right, there is no problem.

All of life is a practice and it is a learn as you go deal. I love the boundries here. I feel so safe here. I really have benefitted greatly by being here.

I hope you will reconsider and not leave.

 

[treble.maker]

What if you are at a point in your life where that is not within your capabilities?? Most people with PTSD don't get things right all the time

I don't think that bad grammar is a specific symptom of PTSD.. I mean yeah, our brains getting jumbled sometimes, but I always realize that I am feeling jumbled and use my adult skills of problem-solving to figure out if something I'm writing makes sense or not.

As for a spell check, I imagine that is a LOT of work and coding for something that can easily be done by the members in a forum full of adults (don't you have to be 18 to join?). I don't really see a reason for the mods/admins to go through all that work, when it is so easily avoidable.

Anyways, you can also see it like a part of healing. Being able to focus on one thing (writing a clear and readable post) at one time can be quite helpful for me. :)

 

[Nicolette]

Oh dear Pennysandnickles it is interesting how the human mind works and what one sees and highlights another doesn't.

For starters your web browser comes with an automatic spell checker... with most current browsers it is no longer even and add on, it is just there, and if I misspell something it underlines it in red. You can click on the underlined word and choose the correct spelling of the word. More importantly, spelling was never an issue or anything which a notification was issued for.

What if you are at a point in your life where that is not within your capabilities??

I believe if you are at a point where you cannot write following basic grammar a written online forum may not be the right resource for you. We have to cater for the majority and not minority as unfair as that may seem to you.

 

[CraftyCath]

Hi Megan,

I'm so sorry you have decided to leave over something like spelling and grammar.

This subject seems to come up so often on this Forum.

I was abused my my primary school teacher and as a result my spelling is quite poor. Saying that, no matter how bad I feel with illness or PTSD I always re-read my post before I click 'post reply.' Then I read it again and edit it if necessary. (I don't always pick up everything but I try). I don't do this out of fear of reprisal but out of respect for other members who may wish to read my post.

Good and bad run on parallel lines. If a Forum is as good as this one is then there will be some things you don't like about it. Our trauma's should not be used as an excuse for poor grammar. There may be other reasons why our grammar slips but PTSD is seldom the cause.

Are we using it as an excuse for not bothering to re-read, edit or write clearly? As I said, my spelling is very poor, I have a limited understanding of word building and it just eludes me. If I can't find the correct spelling with the spell checker then I use an on-line dictionary.

The positives of being a member of this Forum far out way the negatives.

You would be surprised how many changes I have made to this one post.

Best wishes to you whatever you decide Megan. :hug:

 

[BloomInWinter]

Megan,

Wishing you well on your journey...

 

[Helliepig]

I agree with lots that has been written on this thread and in no way mean to criticise the moderators. I do think, though, that someone who is traumatised may have found it hard to come on here; it may be the first time they have ever told someone something excrutiatingly difficult, and may be feeling very anxious about what they have done.

To recieve a warning in response to that could feel very harsh, and could replay for them times in their lives where they tried to express themselves and felt unheard/judged about some minor infraction, and ending up feeling shamed and angry. In other words, unintentionally replaying abusive situations for them. That would be enough to cause someone to spin out in shock and anger...

Would it not be possible for the warnings, especially for the newest members, to be more gently worded? I accept longer serving members should know better, but for the newbies, a kind response or acknowledgement to what they have written with a gentle reminder would seem less...blunt?

 

[Loner]

I dont have time to read all the replies right now, but I just wanted to say that I think those grammar messages are less a reprimand about doing something bad and more just a heads up that one of your posts was edited to be more readable. Honestly, I think you should just ignore them. Post how you like and if its a little hard to read someone might edit it as gently as possible.

Also, firefox has built in spellcheck.

 

[Nicolette]

We are re-visiting and re-hashing all what has been discussed before.

Hellipeg members were involved in the notificatIons and they were 'softened'. Just like life, there will always be someone who doesn't like something so the middle and fair road has to be taken which suits the majority of the community.

Honestly, I think you should just ignore them. Post how you like and if its a little hard to read someone might edit it as gently as possible.

Loner while I appreciate your perspective it is not appropriate for you to tell members to ignore the notifications. It is also not your place to suggest to members to post how they want as all here have agreed to abide by the rules - some of which relate to posting and what is being discussed here relating to basic grammar.