I'm Losing My A Feelings For Him

[Ikati]

It's been a long time coming and I really thought it wouldn't happen but I'm losing my feelings for him. I hardly remember how it started. I do know the attraction is still there but after so many shut outs and forcing my feelings to shut down, I'm losing them.

I'm feeling happier than I have in a long time. Content and stable. No, I don't have the excitement and deep stirrings in my heart but I have peace. He pushed me away harder each time and pulled me back more luke warm, and less frequently. I guess he's done with me too, but I don't care so much anymore.

I feel sad, but sad like the end of a good book. I just can't believe my feelings are dying.

 

[Ebiv]

I'm sorry...

 

[Ozuf]

Yep! Was crazy over my vet but he's shut me out time after time and I suppose nature has just taken its course. He still wants to be with me but I'm falling out of love with him. Hugs to you!

 

[Evima]

It's been a long time coming and I really thought it wouldn't happen but I'm losing my feelings for him. I hardly remembe...

I'm sorry this has happened to you. It's hard to see a relationship fall apart for any reason. You have to take care of youurself first, and sometimes that means leaving.
Best of luck to you always.

 

[Enu]

I understand completely. Knew this was coming, but I'm still sad I don't feel that excitement and energy anymore and sad to say goodbye. I'm angry and hurt, but still love him.

Love sucks. It gives you a glimpse of paradise and then rips it all away. :sorry:

 

[Guzip]

It gives you a glimpse of paradise and then rips it all away.

I think a well person with PTSD does this... not love. Just my opinion. I get how you feel but it's not love that caused him to shut you out or push you away; it was an illness. No one says you have to live with it, it's sad the person you do love gets consumed from PTSD and can sometimes totally disappear.

 

[Lawebi]

I get you. Fine, PTSD does suck.:mad:;) But love is still a witch because when your heart gets broken, love is what has the power to make you feel like it's the end of the world for quite some time.

 

[anonymous]

This is happening to me too and I hate it. I can see it but I can't stop it.

There was a meme a while back that said "What happens if you throw this plate? [broken plate] What happens if you throw the plate and say sorry [still a broken plate]"

I think this is me (or us all on this thread?). There was one weekend when he treated me with utter contempt and then on the Monday acted as if all was fine. I just figured that he couldn't hurt me anymore than he had and therefore I no longer had anything to loose. It's a strange feeling.

 

[Amenu]

I understand how this happens. You've seen the person he has the ability to be, the part of him that is locked away behind PTSD. But the hard part is realizing you have to accept the person he is now, today, rather than who he once was or has the potential to be. All you can deal with is what's before you right now. That is such a sad struggle. I hope this is a healing transition for you.