Relationship I'm Worried

[pelican]

Hi - it's good to find this forum.

I'm on the horns of a dilemma. My PTSD girlfriend and I split over the Summer, agreeing to stay friends.

How have people here managed to remain in contact as friends without stirring feelings inside, feelings of love for this person again.

Thank you

 

[sisu]

Well you know the old saying ~ If you can remain friends after a break up either you are still in love or never were.

I think its tough to remain friends with somone if the feelings are strong and especially if they are one sided. Time is a great healer. Maybe after some time apart and the strong feelings subside you will be able to have a friendship with this person.

Good luck to you!

 

[katelynmarie]

I agree good luck:D

 

[Snowangel1225]

Well you know the old saying ~ If you can remain friends after a break up either you are still in love or never were.

I don't agree with this. I have remained friends with a couple of my exes and it has worked out for us. When I was in a relationship with them, I loved them and they were my best friend and confidant. Just because the relationship did not work out, does not mean that my feelings for them have gone away. I cannot go from loving someone to not caring at all. I'm not going to lie and say it's always been easy....it takes some time and adjustments along the way, but if both people realize that the romantic relationship is over and agree to be friends, it can.

Of course, it all depends on why the relationship ended and how it ended. There are some people who are toxic to you and if that's the case, absolutely cut all ties. But on other cases, sometimes your ex is a better friend than a partner.

 

[Flyaway]

I think it depends on the person... While I don't believe we can choose who we love, I believe we can choose how we love the person. Maybe you could discuss boundaries you can both set up to restructure your relationship?