In Another Traumatic Situation

[Melody coates]

my roommate and I don't get along. we argue like cats and dogs. we been struggling with the bills and the stress made it worse. his anger outbursts have become violent outbursts. he has thrown stuff at me and last night he actually slapped me. the neighbors overheard the noise and called the cops. I decided to save his ass and lie. I can't go back to the shelter because once you leave you can't go back for a year. I lost my job a few months ago and I managed to finish school and get my certification as a medical administrative assistant. he knows about my PTSD but doesn't really understand how it effects someone. I been having nightmares about him as well. advice?

 

[scout86]

but doesn't really understand how it effects someone.

Chance are he also doesn't CARE how it affects someone, including you.

You know the answer, right? "Get out before you get hurt." Things are NOT going to get better.

Good for you for finishing school! Don't you know ANYONE else who'd be suitable roommate material? Your chances would be better answering some random ad for a roommate than they are staying in the current situation.

What are your job prospects? How are you paying your bills?

 

[Melody coates]

job prospects are good. I might have an interview later this week. I have a career advisor who has been faxing out my resume. and my roommate is the one paying the bills at the moment.

 

[Melody coates]

and no I don't know anyone suitable. I would like to get an older female roommate who is on social security or something. she won't do anything except sit around and wait for her check to come

 

[scout86]

Then maybe you can safely keep a real low profile, until you get a job and can move out. But I'd make "moving out" a really high priority. Like, don't wait until it's easy and convenient, do it ASAP, even if you have to sleep on the floor of the new place for awhile.

she won't do anything except sit around and wait for her check to come

ROTFL! Don't bet on that! But, in many communities, there ARE opportunities for people to move in with older or disabled people and do some work around the house in exchange for some of their expenses. You might want to check with the various social services groups near you (including churches, Salvation Army, etc) You might be able to find something that helps you and someone else at the same time.

 

[Melody coates]

I have a habit of losing jobs. I've lost every one I've had so far. I never make it past one month

 

[scout86]

That's a habit you might want to work on improving.

 

[Friday]

LMAO... I call certain kinds of work during certain times "burner-jobs" (like burner-phones, designed to be thrown away). I go in expecting to lose them / also don't apply for dream-job-in-my-field type things... Because I'm relearning how to be employed and juggle aspects of PTSD & work colliding. I'm also fair constant on the lookout for other work, even as I'm employed, to handle some of those transitions when I've done f*cked up & slept through a shift, mouthed off, walked out, etc. Sigh. In fact, I've turned down a couple things the past few years just because I actually do want to work there... Later. When I'm less of a hot mess.

It usually takes me a little while to get back to being first a good employee, and then able to trust myself to do well at what I'm good at.

Keep at it.