Working more on me

[KA60]

I have been spending quite a lot of time with Kenny Wise relationship coach therapist as some of my dysfunctional beliefs behaviors reappeared due to stress. He is a great review for me when I got trauma therapy and domestic violence treatment from 2016- 2019. I am becoming very aware of the relationship I had with my fsther. He is 89 now still alive. He is very controlling. Always has been. Used anger with me other famiky members. Are relationship our phone conversstions-,he lives 1900 miles away- are predetermined by me now. I call set a time limit and topics. Last call 2 days ago was about the weather and he asked if I was getting along ok with my husband and if I was ok financially. The last 2 topics if he asks again in the future I will not give an answer. He controls others like this..So. my relationship with him has always been this. He was never nor will provide any real communication closeness etc. He has always been angry depressed. Of course I always thought I was the cause of all this. I sure had issues trauma made mistakes was the peolle pleaser codependent. I expected things from him he could never give. I am letting go.