MaggieRose6117
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Hi everyone, I'm Maggie Rose.
I have been in love with a trauma survivor for almost three years now. We are not in a relationship because it has taken us this long to progress to meaningful conversations. When I met him he could barely talk to anyone. He still struggles to make eye contact.
We developed a huge crush on one another but he couldn't act on it so he withdrew. I told him I didn't want to lose him as a friend so we became friends (it took about six moths). He hinted only recently that he endured childhood trauma and can't remember whole days of his life, only going to bed at night. His mother and brother have both tried to commit suicide. His dad was hijacked and shot at their home a few years ago which was another trauma for him. He refuses to see a therapist as he says they don't care and he doesn't trust anyone, anyway. He said he has been hurt and disappointed so many times he struggles to even get close to anyone.
Recently he started dropping hints about how nice it would be to date someone and I said "I would rather be alone than hurt" and he said, "I'm alone *and* hurt". I then tried to flirt with him a little bit but he has since been much less communicative. I texted him yesterday, he replied, I sent a follow-up and he hasn't even read it (which has never, ever happened before). I think he's avoiding me so I'm going to leave him alone for a while. He has said in the past that he can only make progress in a 'one step forward, two steps back' kind of way but nobody ever hangs around long enough to help him to progress. I am trying to be the friend who never quits, but I'm starting to take some strain. Advice?
Haha, I mean six months, not six moths. ;)
I have been in love with a trauma survivor for almost three years now. We are not in a relationship because it has taken us this long to progress to meaningful conversations. When I met him he could barely talk to anyone. He still struggles to make eye contact.
We developed a huge crush on one another but he couldn't act on it so he withdrew. I told him I didn't want to lose him as a friend so we became friends (it took about six moths). He hinted only recently that he endured childhood trauma and can't remember whole days of his life, only going to bed at night. His mother and brother have both tried to commit suicide. His dad was hijacked and shot at their home a few years ago which was another trauma for him. He refuses to see a therapist as he says they don't care and he doesn't trust anyone, anyway. He said he has been hurt and disappointed so many times he struggles to even get close to anyone.
Recently he started dropping hints about how nice it would be to date someone and I said "I would rather be alone than hurt" and he said, "I'm alone *and* hurt". I then tried to flirt with him a little bit but he has since been much less communicative. I texted him yesterday, he replied, I sent a follow-up and he hasn't even read it (which has never, ever happened before). I think he's avoiding me so I'm going to leave him alone for a while. He has said in the past that he can only make progress in a 'one step forward, two steps back' kind of way but nobody ever hangs around long enough to help him to progress. I am trying to be the friend who never quits, but I'm starting to take some strain. Advice?
Haha, I mean six months, not six moths. ;)
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