In Need Of Help Dealing With Husband's Ptsd.

[adeline]

Hi Nicolette

I will look for the pinned thread. thats basically what I need, help from those who know what its like. I have great friends and family that want to help and be supportive during this time in our life. But its not the same as those who actually know what it is like from personal experience. :) thank you

 

[adeline]

Hi MurphyJB

I never thought about starting a diary but it is a great idea, definitely will help with venting since I really find it hard to vent all the time to friends and family. I don't want to seem a burden to them and have them thinking that this is all I think about. But honestly its what we deal with on a daily basis and its hard to see the silver lining when most days is a struggle to get through.

The good thing is I look forward to bed every night because the next day I know is another day where I can start over and try something new.

 

[adeline]

Hi Brontie

You know I don't know if he is interested in learning about his condition as much as I am. I have always been one to believe that information gives you strength with everything that you go through. I think it is important to be as informed as possible and being open and receptive to learning. I don't think you ever stop learning throughout your life and maybe once he sees what I am doing then maybe he can take the time to want to learn with me.

 

[adeline]

Hi Amethist

I have started taking the boys one day a week away from him in order to detox them from the chaos we call life. I don't want this to completely affect them in a negative manner that will hurt them in the future.

Our 8year old looks at 'daddy's bad days' as his brain playing tricks on me. He reassures me that daddy loves us and wants to be with us its just that the war has affected him. And that he needs us here to support him. It makes me smile to hear him talk like that but then hurts me because all I want is for him to be a kid for as long as possible without having to completely deal with the drama of adulthood you know what i mean.

I will have to start taking better care of myself. I feel better when I take time away but i feel selfish for doing it. I will have to work that out i suppose.

 

[Froggie]

Welcome to the forum adeline, no carer/supporter is ever ready to deal with a spouse with that kind of diagnosis... one way or another, nobody is prepared for this. You have done a great move to come on here and I see that you are already surrounded by some very well experienced supporters. You're a very ingenious parent and are taking great mesures to help your children to deal with this. In this whole thing, never forget to take care of you.

PS : I'm a sufferer

 

[adeline]

Froggie, I am sorry to hear that you are a sufferer. I wish I could better understand what it is you all go through. I am hoping between the carers and sufferers I can learn more. Thank you for taking the time to say HI.

Adeline

 

[HopefulChristian]

Hi Adeline,
Welcome. I'm new here myself. I too am learning what "taking time to take care of myself" really is. I don't think I've had much of that in years. I've been also trying to equip myself with knowledge. One book that I've been reading is The PTSD Breakthrough. I've read a few books and this one has been the best for what we are experiencing.

 

[adeline]

Thankyou Hopeful Christian....I will look for that book this weekend when I am at the bookstore.