Other Incontinence

[LChP]

My name is Mike. I am writing to get support about this condition I have had for as long as I can reme...

Hello, Mike,
You are the first person ever to describe my ordeal. I am a woman of 37 years of age and have been acutely suffering from urgency, frequency, nocturia and incontinence since about 21 years old. Not that I was 'normal' before, but it wasn't as bad. Everything I have tried and went through medically has failed, and as I had not been able to be opened about the issue (out of shame, needless to say), I had not yet made a clear link between the abuse of my childhood and teenage-hood with my condition. I opened to the counsellor I am seeing (unfortunately only for two more sessions) yesterday and she said something like 'you know when a child is in situation of trauma one cannot hold all of the muscles'. And saying that I was the victim is an understatement. Just doing the first research today I came across your message. Thank you for being the first person ever living with this horrible condition. I have tried until now not to be wearing pads but it is becoming worth and today I will buy some. I want to have hope... but I don't really, as it has been so long. My ordeal happens anytime, so also in public. My life is hell. This is not the only effect of the abuse and trauma, self-harm, binge-eating, addictions, self-hatred, suicidal thoughts, etc, the list is long of what I have to fight against. I am isolated, of course. Anyway, I just wanted to say thank you for sharing so I could read about you.
Good luck,
LChP

 

[Cinnamon4z]

So mike
I know this is an old thread but after coming across it in my search, I can't help but feel for you. I am in similar boat following my car crash. I developed a ton of urinary issues as well as back, neck pain and whole bunch of other symptoms. Although for most part my incontinence is generally minor or some dribbling, things tend to rapidly change when I get my panic attack or become spooked/startled sometimes. Dribbles become floods and such.

I personally need my diaper wear especially for the frequency and severity of my panic attacks and such. The incontinence for me I find to be far less of a problem compared to my ptsd, anxiety and depression issues. There maybe a regressive aspect as the diapers definitely do provide a sense of comfort and security from accidents. Hecht, I cant sleep as well now without my teddy bear. Lol. I do have bigger issues than just having to wear diapers on my mind like getting run over by a car.... And trying to get back in shape.

I have recently started doing trauma focused cbt and sandplay. Although it seem a little juvenile I feel each session has slowly and steadily been helpful and relieving my trauma and anxiety piece by piece

 

[Rick Murphy]

My name is Mike. I am writing to get support about this condition I have had for as long as I can reme...

Hi Mike. I was moved to read your story. I was born with Spina Bifida, which made me permanently incontinent. I've struggled with similar issues also. Abandoned, abused and grew up in a home with an alcoholic strep father. It certainly is hard enough to deal with the issues of incontinence without having to deal with abuse on top of it. I wear diapers daily and at night also. I've learned to live with idea that it means nothing about me. I studied Tai Chi to manage anxiety and anger, both of which made it impossible to remain dry. Tai Chi then led me to a job helping people with emotional trauma issues. This helped me to address my own childhood issues. Today, I'm still wet but I feel better. I can certainly relate to what you're going through. If you want to email me, we can share. I hope this has helped. Take care. Rick

 

[Harald]

While I appreciate the kind comments of the five people who replied, there have as of right now been 1...

Hi Mike,

This is just a brief reply to say how sorry I am to have read your post and that you have been suffering like this for so long.

I just wanted to tell you that I can relate to some of the issues you mentioned, and after around five years of having bad incontinence, and trying various medications, and other treatments I am almost cured. What has worked for me in Hypnotherapy. I was not regressed as it was not what I wanted, but I did get a CD to listen to daily and the suggestions have really helped with my anxiety (which had built up in relation to the incontinence). If this reply helps you in any way and you decide to give it a go then I wish you luck. The person who offered me the session also did so for free, which is quite an amazing thing to have done, and has been such a wonderful gift to me.