Introductions?

[Molly Anne]

The site suggested I get started by introducing myself. Basically, I guess I'm what this site/forum calls a "supporter"... or at least trying to be. Going through a very hard, very sudden break-up, and not fully understanding the motives, but when I read many of the posts here I found that I'm not alone. I recognize that the PTSD may not be fully to blame, but all of the hallmarks are there. I'd really like to understand it more and get some advice on how to stay supportive in case he should want to come back into my life, as a friend or (hopefully) as more. I will honestly say at this point, only positive advice is welcome. This is very fresh for me (in the last week) so I'm not ready for anything brutally honest just yet. Please be gentle.

 

[Sandra]

Welcome to the forum.

 

[TigerPride]

welcome Molly

Everyone here is nice, so no worries :)

 

[Molly Anne]

Thanks! I hope so :)

 

[Zipperhead]

Molly, I have just started Therapy. I have hope. I know I need help, and I'm trying to figure it out. I really understand your comment about wanting only positive advice. In the end, human nature is to focus on the negitive, and it also seems that few people actually log on when things are going well. I can honestly say I have good days. Will I ever be the old me? No, but I have hope I can be a good new me some day. It all starts with acknowledging I need help though. I hope your Sufferer has already done this, and you will get to see him getting better.

 

[Deaf Global Nomad]

Welcome to the Forum, Molly!

Good job on the introduction! I hope you find what you are looking for here. Everybody is really very nice and gentle. If you feel more comfortable lurking for a while, feel free to do so. Take a look at the wiki pages and the supporter part.

 

[Molly Anne]

That's a good idea, thank you very much! :)

 

[Molly Anne]

Oh and thanks Zipperhead, I've just seen your post there as well. Unfortunately, the marine I was dating is in denial that his deployment affected him at all. You've touched on something very valuable though - I have more concern for him and his suffering, and hoping he can experience real healing, than for my own sadness. I am just going to love him through it, and I wish I could be by his side, but I suppose ultimately that's his decision, not mine... I'll just be available if and when he needs me. I hope that someday, at the very least, I can find closure.