Is a strong reaction like this normal?

[thursday]

I live in an apartment complex for seniors. I live at ground level and have a mini garden. I rent from a company, who have have another company who does the gardens of the complex. Last year I agreed with them that they would skip my garden. They were pruning everywhere yesterday, also in my garden. I told the man what was agreed. No, he said, this is in the contract. I urged him to move on, but he refused. I was so angry called names and so on. Later in side, he was gone, I got hart palpitations and pain in my chest. I got such a heavy reaction, crying as well. Next I got a flashback form the past. I have another therapy session Wednesday and will bring this up. I couldn't put it aside. Except when I have a distraction like watching TV or so.

 

[anthony]

I think you need to take this up with the company again, get it in writing. The person performing their duties, are likely just complying with their contractual obligations. Get it in writing so you can show the person next time that you are exempt, in writing, mutually agreed, and if they ignore that, that is different.

Sorry to hear about your reaction - life sucks. It would be great if things like this didn't happen. You haven't done anything wrong that I can understand, but I can also understand the person doing the job and wanting to comply with their contractual obligations so they don't get punished.

 

[Calmdown]

That sounds like old feelings resurfacing due to a trigger. In that moment you're completely overwhelmed even though it doesn't really fit the situation. It's a normal reaction to abnormal experiences from the past.

 

[parrotthepolly]

I have had flashbacks unrelated to the stressor as well if that's a part of your question. And also panicking about things that you wouldn't expect to cause a reaction like that.

 

[arfie]

i won't speak for the global norm, but this is a normal reaction for me, especially in regards to my beloved garden. mess with my root babies and you can plan on a mom-a-kazi coming at you! ! ! INCOMING! ! !

whatever the result of my caped crusade to save my babies, the daisy chain of coming down from that defensive action can get intense, including the flashbacks, et al. television is not enough distraction to keep me in the here and now. typically, i need an anger channel to purge the residuals. at 70, "vigorous" has become a relative measure, but a vigorous physical workout it my most effective anger channel.

 

[thursday]

Just finished a phone call with the housing company. They rang after I contacted them via Whatapp. There is a new contract with a new maintenance company starting the coming months. Now the housing C. is going to arrange for this new mc to notify me when they
'll come to my street. So I can wait for them with a baseball bat. No, so I can go somewhere else for a couple of hours. The biggest problem was that those men didn't listen to me. Also high on the list is the noise, and the personal space thing. I count the mini garden as personal space as well at the moment. Yesterday I was so clever to wear my nc headphone.