Is it normal to be embarrassed of liking your therapist?

[somerandomguy]

HOWEVER, many people seem to confuse the word 'intimate' with being 'sexual'. Yes, sex can be considered an intimate act, BUT, intimacy does not equal sexual feelings or attraction.

Good point. And this confusion is aggravated by the fact that the word "love" means more than one thing. I've said that I love my therapist, but not at all in the way I love my wife. But sometimes that word - love - still trips me up, even though I'm the one feeling it!

 

[UnicornSightings]

I’m really good with the word “intimacy”. I don’t necessarily equate it to sex. Emotional intimacy is terrifying but very intriguing. I hope to open up more and explore my feelings with someone. I’ve never fully allowed that before.

 

[EveHarrington]

On the flip side, would you feel more at home with disliking your therapist?

Or do you view it as something that should be more neutral?

 

[UnicornSightings]

On the flip side, would you feel more at home with disliking your therapist?

Or do you view it a...

Hahahaha!! Ok, that really helps! No, I definitely don’t want to dislike him. I just have a lifelong habit of fixating on mentor-like people. All parental transference people. I guess I just know what’s coming because of the last t. It doesn’t die down... I can fight it, hate it, wish it away. I can go deep into it, indulge it, obsess and leave no time for my own life OR I find some damn middle way so that I don’t fail my classes cause I’m in this forum or reading old emails or in that obsessive thinking. I need a middle way so this just all stops.

 

[Scarlet13]

I talked to my t about my attachment a little bit yesterday. Like my fear of it and that I see...

So, I can relate to this. I had an emotionally abusive mom and she makes having needs hard.
I always had to work for her love and felt driven to earn it. She also did not keep boundaries with me and let me in on her sex life.
So it was an intimacy, but not the kind of intimacy I craved, the appropriate kind.
So, I have anxious avoidance attachment issues with others, especially my T.
My advice is to not fight it, don't judge your attachment and also avoidance.
It is a sign of what needs to be healed.
It is actually a sign of health.

 

[BoN-bOn]

When I told my therapist I had feelings for her & felt ashamed she told me that all of the feelings I was having were completely NORMAL & nothing to be ashamed of. It was other people who took advantage of those feelings in the past & turned it into something to be ashamed of. Not my fault. & it’s okay to have healthy feelings of love towards people without being ashamed.