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What @Ronin said... coupled with the fact that playing out in your relationships? Doesn’t make the insight/observation any less valuable. The opposite. Being able to recognize the patterns in your life and your relationships is the MOST valuable perception to be able to achieve. Because it’s in your own life that you live, and have the power to truly effect change (if wanted/desired). A thing doesn’t have to be true for everyone else, or most... to be true for you.
By dropping the generalizations to look at my own life and patterns? I’m not only able to get real traction in my own life... but I’m able to find others, with the same patterns, who’ve gotten either more traction (and able to learn from) or less (and able to kick my own experiences their way).... OR... who do things wildly differently than I do & learn from them and their experiences/choices. Or even just knowing that my own are not set in stone. There are other ways to do things, some I’ll admire / some I’ll recoil from, some that are just different. By changing my perspective from translating my situation out onto everyone else? I can actually make a lot more connections, just by shifting my perspective.
Which is what it sounds like what you’re trying to achieve... connecting with people who have walked -or are walking- the path you’re on?
Venn Diagram Style
- Codependency following trauma / with trauma complications
- Codependency in and of itself
- Unhealthy long term relationships following trauma / with complications
- Unhealthy long term relationships
- Healthy long term relationships following trauma / with complications
- Healthy long term relationships
- etc.
All interlacing circles wih valuable information in each, and your own unique situation at the point of intersection.
Your own unique situation doesn’t have to translate in whole, to still be relatable; nor do the points of commonality have to extend outward to all/most to be vitally important in your own life :)
Which is what it sounds like what you’re trying to achieve... connecting with people who have walked -or are walking- the path you’re on?
Venn Diagram Style
- Codependency following trauma / with trauma complications
- Codependency in and of itself
- Unhealthy long term relationships following trauma / with complications
- Unhealthy long term relationships
- Healthy long term relationships following trauma / with complications
- Healthy long term relationships
- etc.
All interlacing circles wih valuable information in each, and your own unique situation at the point of intersection.
Your own unique situation doesn’t have to translate in whole, to still be relatable; nor do the points of commonality have to extend outward to all/most to be vitally important in your own life :)
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