Is It Worth Telling Your T When You're On Your Period?

[Blue boots]

Im always particularly difficult and easily hurt when I'm on my period. Sessions that coincide with my period are often very difficult ones, in a bad way. I would be interested in knowing your thoughts...

 

[Deleted member 28403]

Yea, would maybe be useful

If the T knows, they can adjust, and make the sessions a bit more manageable

 

[Casey_03]

I think it would be useful. Also, I don't know if you are on medication or even in favor of taking meds, but I used to get really crippling depression during my periods and my therapist at the time had me go on meds that regulated the hormone levels. It helped immensely. So might be worth considering, and definitely worth mentioning. Don't be shy about it!

 

[expectingbetter]

I understand you completely, I feel the same, although I feel particularly vulnerable when I am in my PMS. I do sometimes tell my T that it is that time of the month. I suggest you to share that with yours, he or she should know if you are more sensitive and why, don't keep that for yourself, it can only be helpful if you tell that. Although honestly I feel like my T doesn't change anything in the approach even after I tell. But it's worth at least to try.

 

[Hellvena]

I get the same problem. I hadn't even thought of bringing it up yet, but maybe it actually is a good idea. My T is a man though so I guess that makes me a bit uncomfortable.Plus he always INSISTS that he knows what things like this can be like and that.. annoys me. Kind of tells me that my feelings are invalid, really.

 

[Suzetig]

That does sound annoying - are you able to tell him to stop it? He can't possibly know what X is like for you, it's very dismissive of you.

 

[Chava]

I hate talking about my period, but can't seem to NOT let my therapist know because it has really messed with me in recent years. Horrid cramping pain sent me into meltdowns (likely endometriosis...biopsy came back okay but I wanted to try all other options before laparoscopy because I feared that option for myself). I also just wanted to die more often because of that extra struggle and the added difficulty of finding any balance in my life. It exacerbated feelings of being trapped or immobilized at times.

Some of that has balanced out for me and the physical pain is less, but also easier for me to manage (though still need low dose of prescription painkillers plus a pile of Advil to function). But I'm noticing my premenstrual moods are sometimes a little more haywire. I'll have a meltdown or feel extra unreal but acknowledge that some part of that is hormonal, and it helps to remember that it will shift or get easier soon...and my therapist always affirms this too. Anyway, nothing wrong with bringing it up...and very good if you notice how it affects you!

 

[Panda Bear]

I don't share, but tend to keep it in the back of my mind when I might be marginally freaking out in therapy.

T did ask me once if hormone might be playing a role in my surely attitude. Which is a valid question....because it does tend to get much nastier when I'm having my period.

But no, I don't willing share. And I wouldn't, T is a man....but then again, I wouldn't with a women either.

 

[Lucycat]

I never specifically shared with my T that I had my period, but I had become very aware that my hormones were not helping my PTSD. So I did discuss that with him, and I then went and discussed it with my GP. I started taking the contraceptive pill (even though I am infertile). It has really helped. My hormones are now steady and I hardly have any periods at all. It has been a great improvement to my life and one I wish I had had the courage to discuss years earlier.