Is There A Way Out?

[evergreen]

Lividredrage,

By the sound of your username, anger is a theme in your life right now. I understand being angry and you have a right to be angry over things that have happened to you that were not your fault. Anger can be a healthy thing when handled in the appropriate way.

It is so interesting how we can learn things about ourselves! Often when we get angry at someone for something, it has something to do with a part of ourselves we don't like. You are angry over 'people sweating small stuff', and that is exactly what you are doing right now.

It may seem at first that a warning is a big deal, but it is a method of communicating that these rules are important to the owner of the website. In my opinion, it is anal. Other people like it. So it is simply a matter of opinion. This forum is so helpful to me that I respect the owner enough to comply by the rules so that I can participate here and meet people who understand things I go through. I don't think you like to react this way, and it seems to me you want to heal. Is it possible that the warning triggered something for you?

This may not be the place for you at this time, but that doesn't mean it can't benefit you in the future. Whatever you decide, be well and continue to grow.

Hugs, Evergreen

 

[Keenbean]

First impressions...

I have to say, I too ended up with a warning following my first posting. I think it was something to do with paragraphing or something, I can't actually remember, but it was enough to reduce me to tears and certainly made me feel all the worse for visiting. I was made to feel even worse following a comment left by one of the moderators which seemed to me to be particularly insensitive, unjust and rather unkind, based on the limited information I had given in my original post. This resulted in another fit of tears and a sense of disbelief at the response to a post from a very low and scared me, when all I wanted and needed were a few kind words and a little support. I decided there and then that I wouldn't be back here.

And yet I am. I did return, a while later, thanks to the kind comments from a number of other members. Further comments made me see that the post that had originally seemed quite upsetting to me was actually not that far off the mark, although not very sensitively phrased. I agree that there should be some rules to keep the forum as well-run as possible, but surely there is also a great need for sensitivity, especially as many people who come to visit the forum are seeking out this sort of help because they are so low. At these times, even the smallest of things can seem like the end of the world, and drag a person into even greater despair. A little understanding goes a long way.

Best wishes to Lividredrage and everyone else,
KB

 

[LoveWins]

I think the amount of people who had a bad reaction to warnings just goes to show what PTSD can do, that it's ok, but that the best thing to do is just calm down, learn about the rules, and enjoy what the forum has to offer

I too got a yellow card, and for a few moments I felt anger coming on. I thought it was harsh. Then I gathered myself, said actually-this doesn't matter. It's their forum and their rules and it's in place to make the place easier for us to use. These rational thoughts took effort-that is simply because I have PTSD and the same goes for you

I hope you can find a bit more calm so you can come back here:Hug_emoticon: