Relationship Is there hope?

[Ronin]

I don't believe it to be right to just give up on someone.

You are not giving up on her.

You are giving up on you, one person in that relationship that does not deserve it.
A friend does not punch a friend because they feel like it. And while I can absolutely think of a thousand situations where a punch, alone, would not be abuse, or could be even helpful, yours does not sound like one.

She is not someone you need to worry about.

 

[scout86]

one thing i do wonder, is if people who go through isolation truly understand how painful it is for the people trying to support them? it is absolutely brutal.

No. From the other side, you're doing people a favor because you can't imagine why anyone would want you around. Or, maybe, you so totally can't deal with "people" that all you feel is the need to escape. I'll grant there might be an exception, but, basically, it doesn't cross your mind that anyone would miss you.

 

[Swift]

You're not giving up on her...
And you don't have to hate her or vilify her.
You're supporting her in the way that she wants you to.
Which is painful in it's own way, but if I ask someone not to contact me, it's easier for me if they don't contact me.
If you need to frame it as helping her. That's okay!

 

[EveHarrington]

This is not isolation.

I repeat.

This is not isolation.

I repeat.

This is not isolation.

I cannot tell you how many people come here after their relationship has ended and held on to the belief that it’s just mental illness isolation and their sufferer will see the light and be back.

You, holding on to the belief that she will be back is just prolonging your pain.

You’re not allowing her to make the decision to be out of your life. She is an adult and can make her own decisions, no matter how much you think it’s the crappiest decision in the world. You have no choice but to respect her decisions or else risk legal action.

 

[joseph73]

This is not isolation.

I repeat.

This is not isolation.

I repeat.

This is not isolation....

I understand that she will not come back. I do not wish her to come back. I choose to believe she is my friend. which means that in my mind i will believe in her. That is not believing she will come back, that is believing that she can be the best person she can be. I understand it will be without me. I understand I cannot help her.

Legal action? I am guilty. of praying for someone. Shameful. lock me up.

 

[EveHarrington]

I understand that she will not come back. I do not wish her to come back. I choose to believe she is...

Yes, if you do not back off, cease contact, no more flowers....she can seek out legal action.

Your sarcasm is indicative of not understanding the lengths we will go to just to feel safe.