Is This Apology Real?

[Tanishq]

I think that if they keep apologizing and not changing not to believe it anymore.

Thank you gizmo. Everyone's opinion has helped me. I didn't take it personally before this time. It was too much when this person apologized three times knowing I don't mind taking their own time. I understand they have time and they need to take care of things of their lives. I also made sure. I told them clearly I don't mind if you take many months and then come back.

:hug:

 

[Britt.f7]

Jaret, giving them the benefit of the doubt, maybe they feel extremely guilty for abandoning you earlier. I do believe it is sometimes better to just ask instead of assume and letting it go around and around in your head.

As far as that other group. If you don't feel it is beneficial to you, for whatever reasons, then perhaps you should think of leaving it. I joined another group at the same time as this one. For various reasons I found this group to be more beneficial and this is where I've stayed. Doesn't mean you shouldn't be part of that type of group, just, maybe you need a different group of people for it.

Keeping you in my thoughts.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I agree with what Britt had to say. it is better to give the benefit of the doubt. I just had a problem that I solved by being calm and honest and it worked out ok. I wish that would happen for you.

 

[Meadowsweet]

It's good to ask for clarity when somebody isn't giving you clear answers.

But just from a personal perspective, I would also err on the side of caution. There are people who use the internet to play mind-games so it might be that your instinct is right.

 

[Thinkingman85]

Sounds to me like it's just drama. People should understand if you don't want to be involved in the forum every once in a while. It's not an obligation, it's a social gathering. If you want to maintain friendship with certain people, it doesn't mean that you have to stay in the forum. At least, that's how it is with me. Every week, there is a philosophy meeting at my local library. Sometimes I go weekly for many weeks. I might not show up until a year later. We still have the same level of friendship.

 

[Tanishq]

I do believe it is sometimes better to just ask instead of assume and letting it go around and around in your head.

I will try to ask them when my mind is clear. Not right now. I am not in state to engage any activity with them.

I joined another group at the same time as this one. For various reasons I found this group to be more beneficial and this is where I've stayed. Doesn't mean you shouldn't be part of that type of group, just, maybe you need a different group of people for it. Keeping you in my thoughts.

Thank you britt.

This is good news that you found another forum like this. I am glad for you.

I just had a problem that I solved by being calm and honest and it worked out ok. I wish that would happen for you.

Yes, gizmo. I will solve this by being calm minded person. I do get irritated where there is no clarity and something runs in my mind over and over.
Thank you gizmo.

There are people who use the internet to play mind-games so it might be that your instinct is right.

I have strong gut feeling on this. Something tells me it is not good thing to take anything from them.

Sounds to me like it's just drama.

I have feelings like this. I feel that they will be friends with me only if I am connected with their forums. I don't feel right to go at their forums.

We still have the same level of friendship.

This is good. Nothing should interfere friendship. I don't like friendships set up on rules and too much boundaries. It just stops me from enjoying friendship.

Thank you all of you for sharing your opinions on this. I appreciate them all.

 

[AS1975]

Jaret, to me an apology is meaningful only if the person is actually sorry, as in sorrowful, for what they have done. Not that they are sorry for getting caught, not that they are sorry about the outcome, not that they wish the consequences hadn't transpired, no. Sorry that they did it to the extent that they will make a truly meaningful effort never to do whatever they did again. In my opinion sorry is the most overused and overaccepted, and as such, devalued word in the entire English language. Sorry means they are sorrowful, that the realisation of what they have done makes them experience pain and remorse, it doesn't mean whoops.

 

[Tanishq]

not that they are sorry about the outcome, not that they wish the consequences hadn't transpired, no. Sorry that they did it to the extent that they will make a truly meaningful effort never to do whatever they did again.

Thank you AS. They told me sorry and told me they are sorry to neglect me. First time, I thought I believed in them. But when it went for three times continuously, now I feel they really wanted to neglect me. I felt bad after this. Now I don't believe in their sorry.

You made great sense. Sorry something we never wished and caused something unexpected to someone. not to say it and then repeat it over and over.

I am sure they must know that their sorry upset me.