Relationship Is this 'normal' with ptsd sibling

[Bart1]

Thanks everyone for the responses
I've now been told they have no desire to reunite as apparently since I didn't hand over any cash it shows I don't really care. I've been told not to bother contacting them either as they are not interested. Deep down was hoping we could reunite because now we are all obviously ten years older and have families we didn't have before...wishful thinking I guess.

 

[Sweetpea76]

I'd take everything with a grain of salt. It all sounds so fishy.

It's like a manipulation tactic. "I haven't seen you in ten years. I have PTSD. Give me money RIGHT THIS SECOND. No money for your mentally ill sibling? I'm never speaking to you again!!!"

I'd almost guess you're being guilted so the next time they come around and ask you'll throw money at them without hesitating.

 

[Bart1]

Thats very possible SweetPea. But I am naturally a very giving but guarded person at the same time.
i have spent the last few days in a daze to be honest as I had always hoped if they ever resurfaced we could all be 'one big happy family'.
I now believe that this may never come to pass. It's perhaps the way you would feel with a divorce you didn't want but know is for the best. i have no way to say 'Goodbye' as I have been blocked by them and have no idea where they live.
I know as has been in the last 10 years I shall hear thru the grapevine from the 'selected few' who have the honor of being in contact with them; about how they are getting on in life, but I guess that's all I'll be 'entitled to'.
Coming on here I was hoping to find answers to this behaviour. I assumed it was all the fault of PTSD and i would come here to learn how to manage it, and support this person better with their illness.