Is This 'right' Thinking?

[illusionist]

Nam......your last post explains exactly what I fail to....thank you. My gaps between episodes have become wider because of it. Acceptance or whatever you prefer to call it is only a small part, but I feel a vital part so you have room in your head to deal with everything else.

 

[Eleanor]

Forgiveness is not want I want to do

I have a bad habit of trying to "rescue" words. I like the word forgiveness, and what I wrote above is what I think it SHOULD properly mean. But that's not what it DOES mean to people now, so it is probably just confusing to use it. It is (pedantically now) what it USED to mean however. The crap about "forgive and forget" because you just magically are "ok" with being abused is just, well, crap. Self serving crap, usually.

I think what people typically do mean by "forgiveness' is bullshit, by the way.

@Nam, what a perfect example of what happens. And how to handle it; make sure child now gets taken care of, and take care of the old hurt, and heal and all go on. Easier said than done, eh? :blackeye:
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[illusionist]

Eleanor....you are so right it is easier said than done.....even if I knew every word in the dictionary, I'm sure no words would explain it. To question everything you feel, unravel it, on a daily basis, over two years for me was ??????????. This is here to stay, I know that, but at least I get remission now.