I know, I wonder that sometimes when he randomly doesn't talk to me. I completely understand how you feel about being cut off, too.
I was thinking the same thing! I think I might have to wait until I get back to school to figure out how sincere he is. If he keeps putting it off once we're close in proximity again, I'll have to move on from there.
One more thing to think about is: Do you really want to be with someone who is seriously ill the way he is? Meaning, having a relationship with someone with severe mental illnesses can be very, very difficult. I know, because one of my gf was borderline, another was chronically depressed and suicidal, another was bipolar, and my last one was severe ocd. It doesn't keep you from loving or caring for someone with a mental illness, but it is a hard road, I will tell you straight up. Don't get me wrong, people with MI's can be very loving, but, it is kind of a Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde sort of thing. As a supporter, you have to have infinite patience and understanding. And, not only did I have to cope with their issues, but mine as well, because I am ptsd. I am only saying this because you are inexperienced, and may not fully grasp what you will be getting into. I am a very easy person to get along and live with, BUT, at the same time, if I am having a panic episode, I'm no cakewalk. It is just something that we as sufferers have to live with. But, it doesn't mean that you have to live with it. Take some time to think.
That is simply being brutally honest about the realities you may face. A sufferer, like myself, or a supporter with years of experience under their belts dealing with mental issues would probably have a much easier time navigating a relationship with someone who has afflictions. People with MI's can have, and often do have, some very beautiful attributes. But, at the same time, when our personal "demons" wish to rear their ugly heads, it isn't pretty. This is for your sake that I have said this, because you deserve complete honesty about the realities that may await you. I do wish you the best, in whatever choice that you make.
Thank you so much for your openness and honesty! I think I'd have to meet him and get to know him more to be able to answer your question. At the moment, when he has good days and we have good conversations, I love talking to him so much. He's kind, respectful, ambitious, and has a lot of the things I'm looking for in a potential spouse. I know PTSD is not pretty, especially combat PTSD. I've seen my brother at his worst and I have to think about whether or not I want to (or can) deal with a spouse like that. I have C-PTSD, but it's nowhere near as bad as my brother's PTSD. I've also lost a few members of my family to suicide, so unfortunately I have a lot of experience as a supporter and sufferer... just not in the context of a romantic relationship.
Best of luck to you both. I hope it works out. :)
Sorry for the late response! Thank you! And thank you for all your help! :)
