Isolating from pets?

[Fadeaway]

Had a lot of stressors lately. Mostly regarding money issues; job loss, fighting eviction and and having everything break at the same time. We were also the victim of a violent crime and stalking. We weren't the only victims but it took for ever for any real legal protection. They would only hold in jail for a few days and then release him. I also have a trauma anniversary a couple days before that oh so wonderful piece of crap holiday everyone loves to shove down your throat. Anyways not sure why I am going on about that stuff.

So my husband pointed out I have been pushing my pets away and isolating from them. I kind of of knew this already and was already feeling guilty about it. Now that he has pointed it out, I feel worse but because of the guilt I feel like I can't even face them.I feel so shitty about it that I can't bring myself to pay attention to them. Does that make any sense? I am full of self hatred at the moment and they are totally innocent and don't understand why they are being ignored but the more I try to fix it the more intense my anxiety is. I need to go feed them right now and I can't bare to look at their faces wondering why I am rejecting them. I feel so sick to my stomach over this. WTF is wrong with me. I feel like I am becoming everything I hate.

 

[The Albatross]

Yeah it makes sense, because you and your husband are cognizant of the gravity of your situation. Simple souls/creatures rely on you both and perhaps a fundamental part of both of you is realizing that if you both can't turn this around you're preparing on a less conscious/mindful level that you need to rehome them?

 

[Fadeaway]

Yeah, and I don't know if I could survive the guilt of it.

 

[Gs172003]

Yeah, and I don't know if I could survive the guilt of it.

I have been doing this to a point myself. I'm working on changing it. You have to make a conscience effort for some things like this because they don't understand what's going on.

 

[Friday]

Pay a neighbor kid $5 to come over once a day and feed them for a week.

Pets & Kids are our responsibility, but that doesn't mean that we have to be the ones taking care of them 24/7. What matters is we're the ones responsible to make sure they ARE cared for 24/7. Whether that's hiring a babysitter when sick or going out, or hiring a neighbor kid to come over... Or taking them to the kennel or daycare/camp... It's OKAY to ask for help.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I do that and have been doing that. My calico is constantly up my ass and she gets pushed often.

When I do its most due to not wanting to be touched.

Don't feel guilty though. Animals don't feel just like humans. They don't hold grudges. And they are missing that upper level thinking like humans so they don't connect pushing away as not being loved.

Animals are great understanding creatures!

ETA: I didn't mean to say animals don't feel. They feel. Just not like humans do.

 

[Fadeaway]

@Friday Their physical needs are being taken care of, and even if I was compleatly unable to do that my husband would. We went a few days with out food to ensure they had food. It just haven't had the heart to give them affection to the point my husband felt he needed to address it.