It Is None Of Your F*cking Business

[Kintsugi]

Keep this thread on topic @rainy_daze @itsKismet @imok.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Well I can tell you that I definitely no longer read your posts and certainly will not respond to any comments.

Nobody cares. You're definitely a TAKER and not a GIVER. These are selfish actions IMHO as I don't ignore your posts. Take, take, take, and refuse to give. Ya, that will get you far in life.

Holding a grudge or focusing solely on "oh that one time that person said this so I still think they're an asshole" would be a waste of my memory and energy.

Tell that to everyone else on the forum. My posts no longer receive replies outside of one person who is kind to me.

 

[Kintsugi]

ItsKismet has been thread banned for ignoring my warning to stay on topic.

If this thread continues to be unproductive, it may be locked.

Please respect moderator requests. We ask nicely.

 

[:Nette]

Great Job, I am proud of you and your courage to speak out about your dad and you are right it is none of anyone's business, but it does help you heal and that is all that matters

 

[Milo's papa]

i have come across this diagnoses on several different media forms. I don't know where it comes from or when it's usage became as frequent as it has. I do believe however, that there are people that suffer with extreme forms of Complex PTSD that will never fully recover. My wife is the perfect After 10 years of therapy with a T that specializes in Complex PTSD and Severe Trauma she still can't handle going to Walgreens by herself, (forget about taking her around a group of more than 4 people, even if she knows all of them). We've had to just accept this as our new norm.

 

[shimmerz]

Or that she might rather have you hate her, than to hate yourself or blame yourself for every beating and rape she took in order to protect you the best way she knew how? That she may indeed still be trying to protect you, now?

Thank you so much for this Friday. Truly. This puts into words something that is very dear to my heart. You don't know why, but you have made a difference to me today and perhaps for a long time for helping to articulate something for me. Reminding me why I do what I do.

 

[shimmerz]

You know, for all it is worth, I DID leave the abusive ex (father of my three boys, who are now 30 and over). They hate me for leaving. Sometimes it feels you can't win for trying. I think the observation that it is easiest to be angry at the family member who is not the abuser seems to apply more than one might think.

 

[SnowJo]

You know, for all it is worth, I DID leave the abusive ex (father of my three boys, who are now 30 and...

Life hopefully when you have lived enough of it, lets us see that, I now realise it was a lot easier to hate my mother, I saw her being beaten and I had no real connection emotionally so I saw her as the villan, and bonded with my abusive father. Something that played out to extreme and I became the sole target of this most ravage insanity at age 11 and 12, so I hear you. I for decades would swing between crying incessantly about the fear or losing the "love" connection .. when the ship had already sailed years ago... facing the truth took over 3 decades, and I still struggle at times. But now I love going for "tea" even if part of me feels its fake, its a nice fake, she tries. (I think she's Autistic possibly why she doesn't experience emotional or cry) but whatever the story, she stuck around in my life and became a good person, so I want her in it. As for my father... Drop kick... PASS!!!! I wish I had the stregnth and resources to face him, challenge him and possibly even prosecute him for all of us, but I have my own family to think of and energy spent on him is a waste of space. so he lives under s snow globe with thick glass in the past, and can't ever reach me again.

I applaud your strength and wish you all the best in the future. I hope one days you will get the loving true relationship you deserve with your boys.