General It's All A Waiting Game

[intothelight]

Angus,

Thank you for sharing the update. I hope things continue to improve for you. It can be slow and frustrating, but you have a great attitude!

Wishing you the best.
Debbie

 

[BigBear]

i asked my wife how things went, and she got very defensive, and reminded me of a promise I had forgotten about where I told her I wasn't going to ask about her sessions.

I asked her if she wanted to meet for lunch, and where I was hoping for a "Sure! That sounds good." I got "Um, I don't know. I will have to see how the next couple of days go." Sounded like an excuse to me, so I cancelled.

You would be amazed at how vastly life changed and how suddenly when Angel started therapy. Scary things happened. Looking back, they were only scary because I didn't know what was going on. She flashed more often and more intensely. She came apart more often. She needed a lot of comfort. She was often more scared. And most of all, it took a lot of time for her to be able to talk about it.

Believe it or not, these were all good signs. Instead of hiding from problems, she was dealing with them. She was taking the weapons of psycho war and doing battle. She's been winning the battle ever since. She can't see it but it's night and day to me!

I'm going to pray that you will get to see a sign that the war is on and that it can be won.

Bear (Spear and shield in hand!)

 

[BigBear]

Sorry, I forgot to mention:

You're doing GREAT!

Bear

 

[ISupportHer]

Good to see you back. Yes, it is a long process and at least you see that. She may never be "ready" to tell all. That can be OK. I have always tried to reassure my wife that I don't need to know all the details, it is the process of sharing and being a couple that is important.

ISH

 

[Tinyflame]

Yes ISH - and some details/ things it seems it doesn't matter to say- not avoidance they lose any ~importance.
(It's a really nice feeling)
:)

 

[Tinyflame]

.. Scary things happened. Looking back, they were only scary because I didn't know what was going on. She flashed more often and more intensely. She came apart more often. She needed a lot of comfort. She was often more scared. And most of all, it took a lot of time for her to be able to talk about it.

Believe it or not, these were all good signs... She's been winning the battle ever since. She can't see it but it's night and day to me!

Gee, Thanks Bear, that's how it's been for me -WOW, -like EXACTLY ('hey- are you in my closet?!' :confused::)) - but have thought it's ' rapidly sinking'/ falling apart, not 'progress' (-sure hope it is :( )

Even if not, your ~optimism makes me feel better.

-Hugs to you both ++, xox

 

[Angus McGee]

I'm glad my update is creating a conversation. Thanks for all your input and prayers. I know that things will ebb and flow as she goes through this process, but right now, I can actually see the healing.

HALLELUJAH!!!

:tup:

 

[ClairBear226]

Glad to hear it, Angus. Keep us posted, will you?