It's Not So Cute Anymore...

[CabraVerde]

So, I am hoarding now. And it's all the greatest plans...saving the world, recycling, herbs, gardens, and canning.

But yes, I heed the wake-up call, that I might be more attached to objects than persons/peoples.

How am I supposed to trust people anymore? I wanted to trust people over objects, but the people aren't dependable.

The studies have shown that there is an artistic/creative component to hoarding, because yes, I see the finer details of things. And as I don't really have family, or trust others as being friends, I live with objects around me...and find some comfort in them.

Five-Ten years out...who am I? Is it worth it...waiting out that point?

 

[Cindy532]

I'm proud of you that you admitted you have a problem with this. It's a very big step. People are hard to trust. I have issues witht hat myself and opening up because I just want to close myself off and hide. Do you think that's what you are doing with your objects? Hiding from life and people? Filling that void. I tell you i' tired of closing myself off to life because i've been doing it for years and I too don't know myself. I learned closing myself off doesn't make me any safer or get less hurt or any more happy. In fact the opposite. I think we are meant as humans to have interactions and love eachother and open ourselves to life. We are meant to be happy. It's hard to be happy when you are in hiding from the world. I don't think that we can change over night. We need to work on it maybe bit by bit. Maybe see if you can part with some of your objects and contact people you have been wanting to see but maybe have been too scared. Baby steps. You can do this! Like I said just the fact you recognized the problem in yourself and know what it's about and a part of you must want to change it, that's awesome! I'll be hoping and praying for you that you can work your way through this!

 

[mamachick]

I know the feeling about trusting people-I was playing slot machines instead of interacting. I agree with the baby steps.
When we really get down to what life is about, I find the answer is relationship.. Even when we dont have family , we relate everyday, here on the forum, at the store, our dentist. When considering a move, I did not realize how many people I had long term relationships with that were not friends, but that in some way do business with, and they are like friends after many years. Im a little bit mushy at times, but I realize how much I appreciate them. Some people are not dependable. Sometimes we have to look really hard to find the good, but when we can at least find some little bit of reliability, we are on our way. Im sorry you are having such a hard time. Baby steps...