General It's Veteran's Day... Acknowledge This Or Don't?

[SRE7267]

So I was having a decent conversation today with my guy... we have been making good progress this week which is a welcomed change. :) It's Veteran's Day today and to me, I feel it's almost ignorant NOT to acknowledge this and to express my gratitude for him being who he is and for choosing the career path he has and doing what he does every single day. But I'm at a loss for whether or not it was the best decision to express that gratitude to him today.

I went back and forth on this a few times and eventually wound up slipping it in simply... but that's when the conversation ended and I got no response. So it could have been that the conversation was just over and I'm reading too much into it... or by me acknowledging this day and expressing my gratitude to him may have been what caused the conversation to end.

Anyone else experience this? Should I have just let it be and not said anything to him?

 

[HollyB]

I purposefully held back in saying anything about his service today. I can't quite articulate why, it's something instinctual, I suppose... based on our current communication level (not much), I get the sense he's not feeling well, and I don't want to do/say anything to remind him of his Vet status.

 

[Renee5624]

I was told that Veterans Day is easier to accept gratitude, hear thanks, comments, but Memorial Day is when he shuts down. He does not want to talk about anything. It irritates him to think its just a day off for some people or vacation time because he's mourning. This could be just my husband's own personal opinion. He's away and I don't know if I haven't heard from him because he wasn't able, or didn't want to. I just decided to post on another social media page my thank you, in case he can see it and know I didn't forget what today was.

 

[SRE7267]

Holly - I think I should have trusted my instinct. The gut tells all... I gotta listen to it more often :)

Renee - I think that's a good idea... post it on facebook, my gratitude and if he reads it great, if not, well I still put it out there. Maybe it's just too soon.

Continuously learning.

 

[Dallas]

I spent the day visiting my guy at the VA hospital today (and I'll be there tomorrow too). I offhandedly remarked that I was surprised that there weren't more "festivities" going on there today (there were none, actually). He grumpily replied, "I don't need to be thanked or appreciated for serving my country." I replied, "Well, I appreciate what you've done for your country." He nodded slightly at my comment, but I think he liked that I said it.

But, I had a really nice "date" with my guy today, pretty romantic actually! Can't wait for tomorrow!

Sincerely,
Dallas.