Please pardon my questions, Bubz
Tis all good. I think he is just waiting for things to calm down so he can go along as usual.
That is NOT going to happen.
Doesn't he like dogs at all
Has grown up with dogs that were always untrained, unfettered and dirty, and watched relatives put bad behaviour into them.
We had an arguement in the car on Tuesday night, and I cracked it at him because he was making comments like - "if it pisses even ONCE inside, it's gone.".
And when I said to him that NO, I didn't trust him with the volunteer to f*ck me up, he got all upset and irritated, til I pointed out that if he was making ridiculous comments designed to ensure the dog would never even enter the premises, and refused to acknowledge that they were entirely unreasonable - there was no f*cking way in hell that I trusted him on the topic.
But then he says that anything in the past he doesn't care about, BUT he doesn't want rules bent or ignored completely......this is in reference to when my mum's dog stayed here, along with the father of the children I was housing/fostering.
Small grey maltese was given a nice juicy bone, and the first thing he said was to keep the dog outside, or it will take the bone on the couch. I said that I didn't think she would, but ok - and as such, instructions were given to both the friend and children NOT, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES, TO LET THE DOG IN, until the bone was either dust or binned.
And so 15minutes later I hear yells of rage because the f*cking friend has ignored us both, and left the back door open so that his darling little children can run in and out because it's what they wanted - and the dog is in the process of stuffing the bone down the back of the recliner.
And then the friend has the f*cking gall to BLAME ME, and say that I let the dog in, and he has the f*cking tenacity to believe him, even after a year later, it was proven that I didn't do it, and the f*cking 'friend' had lied about other things too!
So I then cracked the shits once again, and asked him how the flying f*ck that wasn't holding onto the past???? And that if he directed the blame towards me, for something the other cluster f*ck had done, I was seriously going to lose my cool.
I then asked him if he could see how making deliberately restrictive and terminating comments like the dog pissing inside would make me angry, especially when I had agreed to all of his rules and wouldn't break or bend them unless under specific circumstances and with permission.
But he refuses to verbally acknowledge that point, and instead said that he wouldn't undermine me with the volunteer.
And sure enough, the next day, he goes ahead and behaves in such a way that either subconsciously or consciously deliberately undermines me at every pass he got.
I'm still so mad I could actually slap him, and if he casually raises the topic again, like nothings fine, you will most probably hear the 'crack' from wherever you are.
He is the kind of person who is Mr Negativity and Doomday until you explain and negate each and every point and then he is somewhat satisfied......but because he still hates everything about dogs, and wouldn't know a well trained one if it bit him on the ass politely (I might continue the parent's bigger dog's training to do this after all), he promptly either goes and forgets or ignores everything you tell him.
All of the negative things about the dog fostering that he heard the other night can be completely avoided and trained out, if you know what you are doing, but the rotten little f*cker doesn't have faith in my abilities (with any animal - which has been proven over and over), and as a result has dragged from under my feet the one thing I wanted to do.
And mind you - it was a cheaper way to combat my depression and loneliness, and if I couldn't get out of the house for a day or so, at least I could work on training and encouraging new habits into the dog.
But never mind - because either way he got what he wanted - and he was blind and idiotic enough to tell me that the volunteer was happy and it went well.
So I guess I'm just going to have to sit at home and rot, because I don't have the money or energy to do much else, and it was the one thing that would have helped me exercise.
I think I should write down the entire list of shit, and when he decided to raise the topic when he thinks he's safe, I'll have it waiting so that I don't forget what was said and done.
Not that I want to hold on, but I deserve an apology for this, and I'm not going to allow forgetfulness over time to save his sorry ass.
