Relationship Jealousy

[kahlan]

Ok so this isn't the first encounter with him being jealous but its the most serious.

Short story male friend (strictly friend) who basically got N and I together and is aware of the ptsd has been very supportive to me when we are having rough spots is at the center of this. N's been in a fair bit of physical pain this past week so he's not been real chatty which is fine, but tonight I made an innocent comment about C. and N blew up at me! I know he's in pain, pain makes him feel "weak" which leads to insecurity, but I don't know what to do to make this better. I know if I try to talk it will turn into a fight, I know if I let it go he's going to think I just don't give a damn. What do I do? I'm just lost right now!

 

[nursenurse]

Wow, I am so sorry, Kahlan. All I know is that these things need to be nipped in the bud before they become too big to handle. However, seeing as he has the pain which is putting him in a rough spot, I would wait until it has eased and his mind is able to focus on what you need to say. In the mean time, really think about what you want to say to him, write it down even. I am great at writing things down, and editing, rewriting, until it says exactly what I need it to say. Try to keep it simple and factual. Jealousy is no laughing matter, but you may have just caught N. at a really bad time. Good luck, my heart goes out to you.

 

[Tiffylatuff]

I deal with that also... The fear of showing weakness... My husband gets angry instead of vulnerable... At the same time is so afraid of losing me without realizing his actions push me away... Sometimes feels like a lose, lose situation for us supporters