Job Searching...it Sucks!

[Srain]

I know how to do this and I know all the ins and outs but it sucks!! I am trying to help my husband and just posting a freaking resume takes me so long I end up going into some moods that are counter-productive! The thing is I am good at this, I've done it all my life but sometimesI have a serious shortage of patience with everything that is going on. I know it's effecting my husband's mood, I don't mind doing this but I think it upsets him that I get upset. :( :( :(

Ugh, this is the time I wish I had even more space between us. I don't mean I don't want to be with him but I do need to be able to talk OUT LOUD when I process. I just do.

I think I'm just venting...

 

[The Albatross]

(((shake it off Rain))) Good observations. Sometimes I tell my husband, "Hey I'm feeling toxic, I need some space" and he'll give me some time so I can get through it. I come in and tell him thank you when I've balanced back out.

 

[Deleted member 11079]

I needed to say things out load before my brain could process it for a while too. Why is that?

 

[Srain]

Hillbilly - I was talking to my tdoc about this yesterday, about how much I talk out loud to process and she didn't think much of it, I have NEVER thought much of me doing because I always have. I may be a little more confused in my direction lately, a little louder simply because I can be - I am at home with the dogs and they don't mind!

I use to write most things to myself during the day at work but it wasn't unusual to here someone ask me if I was talking to myself - the answer was "yes"...then the usual snicker of "as long as she doesn't answer herself"...answer -"yes, she does!" :sneaky:

Women tend to be verbal processors ...if there is only one of us women around I still need to verbally process. It helps for me to hear this stuff out loud.

Thanks Albatross, you are very right. It's just been a long and trying time for most people and we are one in millions of couples. I have been here before but not with someone else in a very very long time and not under these conditions.

 

[jka37]

hurray for verbal processing. I have a huge desire for my boyfriend to engage in this with me, but he's barely experienced verbal processing, growing up in a family that doesn't do emotions, and being 1 of 7 boys. He's learning.

The toxic mood thing is awful. I hate having to pull away from him, but I know I won't be nice if I don't.