Military Joining The Army With Ptsd

[Ronin]

A quick google search will show that they're trying to get women through combat training, but so far, none have succeeded.

A quick google search would also tell you there's quite a lot of research saying basically they don't have enough data on this or that area. (But I'm rather sure cops & army alike would have lot more easier jobs catching some predators if all the people in service were proper recorded and findable with quick google searches as you propose!)
Maybe something's wrong with your relying on googling instead of lived experience. If you believe someone's lived experience is load of nothing, there's nothing easier than moving out and letting them be, because you still don't know all there is to know about any given area of the world.

 

[Sammyiam]

@Solara


Why do you like being mean to everyone on here, it's like you get off on picking on people and making their life hell.

Haven't we all been through enough already without making people feel worse than they already do.

It's so easy to make comments hiding behind a computer screen. and using emotions like :(

But do you truely understand how bad you hurt people, you have made me cry so many times on this forum with your mean comments

I nearly left the forum two or three times because of things you have said to me, and others. I just didn't want to be apart of a forum with such mean people,

I have been hurt so much in my past, I didn't want to be hurt by the people that I was trying to get support from, it was only all my friends on here that made me want to stay.

I have no idea about @FridayJones past but it's none of my business unless she tells me parts of it, the parts she wants to let me know like many on here. But what I do know is she has been there for me many times when I have needed support.

I thought that's what this forum was meant to be about. Supporting each other through the hell we call PTSD. Not trying to catch people out and judging others by their past. Why carn't we be kind to each other. Haven't we all been through enough hell, without causing each other hell on here !

If it's about picking on people and being mean to people I don't want to be a part of this place, I come for support from other people who have been through things that they shouldn't have been through just like myself.

You made my life hell a while ago I was so scared to come on, I felt so bad by what you were going to say to me I just didn't want to be here. Is that how you want to make people feel ? I have sat back and watched you say such mean things to so many people and have been to scared to say anything for fear of how mean you will be to me.

But I have sat back long enough and seen many people so hurt by your actions, I think you have been unfair to a lot of people by your blunt and mean comments, and you hurt so many people by what you say.

Please think about how this affects others by what you say to people. It's easy to just say will I'm blunt and laugh it off but sometimes things that are said are just mean.

Just take a look at some of the things you say, and if they are said to you how it makes you feel.

I also know that you can reply to this and completely blow me out of the water as I'm not very good at saying things, that's not what I want, you could eat me up and spit out my bones everytime, as you are very good with words, I'm not wanting to get into a war of words as I give up straight away you win, I just wanted to let you know that sometimes words do really hurt people and hiding behind a computer screen it is so easy to say things without any feelings as to what it's doing to the people on the other end receiving it.

Please. Just give it a little thought


Sammy

 

[holdenmonty]

Hell yeah @FridayJones that is what I wanted to do but didn't want to get myself into trouble since it wasn't me she was attacking. That is how a mother f*ckin marine kicks ass.

 

[The Albatross]

As her comment was edited by a moderator apparently they didn't feel it was attacking. She fly's just under the radar. Very good at it too.

 

[shimmerz]

Which makes me look like an idiot - the word LIAR was in that posting. Would you mind removing my posting then please mods?

I am shaking my head at all of this. There are rules for some and not for all?

 

[Deleted member 28812]

To be honest: I have to agree with Sammyiam. @Solara can be very blunt and does come across rude sometimes. For example: I don't think it was nice when she told @Becksknox that she needed CBT or when she told me that my post was "lacking common sense and respect". @Solara: Maybe you don't mean it that way but some people are offended by that and this rude talk may keep newbies from joining.

So maybe this is something you might wish to think about. I am not trying to be mean. I want to help you and tell you how some people (such as me) feel about your posts. So you might consider this next time.

BTW. So sorry @Cha123 for derailing this thread.

 

[anthony]

Hopeless?

There is a difference to healing versus cure. There is a difference between better days ahead versus cure. There is a difference between recovery and cure. I'm not robbing anyone of anything, but if you want to state facts, then please state them accurately, OR, state that it is your opinion only that a cure exists, and not make a statement as though fact. Eg: "IMO PTSD can be cured." And not as you said, "People can be and have been cured."

You can completely recover from PTSD, that is factual. You cannot cure PTSD, that is factual. Trauma can be successfully treated, factual. PTSD can be managed, factual.

People in high ranking positions of mental health have lost their jobs from making statements about a cure existing for PTSD. Again, if you want to say cure, then add that it is your opinion please, and not say it as though it is factual. When a cure is found, it will be cited here as factual. Until then... we state facts, we have our opinion.

Again, I am not trying to take anything away from you. This community is about passing accurate information, factual information, otherwise opinionated discussion and support. As long as both are differentiated, all is ok.

 

[shimmerz]

It wasn't you that derailed it @Lemontree. It was @Solara. I want to understand why a PTSD board is actually changing posts so that attacking can get swept under the rug. The posting where Solara called NotsoWild a liar has also been changed. My first post in this thread was also modified by a moderator. Check in Solara's diary on page 1 towards the bottom and she talks about being on another board and someone actually called her a liar! Hmmmmph! Can you believe that????? What kind of idiot would do that? That is just cruel.

 

[joeylittle]

I want to understand why a PTSD board is actually changing posts so that attacking can get swept under the rug.

This might be a topic for the Help Desk. But to close this down on this thread:

The direct attack was edited, the member was warned for attacking and received appropriate warning points. This is not sweeping under the rug; this is the way the rules are enforced. Direct attack consists of "you are a xxxx". Saying that someone has fabricated, exaggerated, lied - this is not direct attack. It might be offensive to people, but the rules don't call for moderating opinion, even when it's strong and wrong, as it was here. "You are a liar" = attack. "you have lied" = not attack. This might not be what people wish the rule was, but it's what the rule is.

Anything further regarding rules, enforcement, etc. - please take it to the Help Desk, thanks.

 

[Kiril]

Guys, this isn't about who's lying or not. That's not what this topic is about. If you want to discuss that via PMs or in another thread, go ahead but right now this is a thread for support for a young woman who might have had her hopes and dreams dashed.

 

[RussH]

to all: There have been several very pointed comments made in this thread, and at least on warning has been issued. A member has certainly angered many of you, but we all need to exercise control and be respectful of one another.

It is time to put it to rest, and get back to the original reason for the post. Should someone with PTSD join the military?

 

[Sammyiam]

Sorry Kaia,

I haven't helped you at all so I would like to say that I'm sorry first up. I think it would be very hard to join such a hard job as being in one of the forces. The people who are in them are so very much under pressure it would be hard to deal with the pressure of the job as well as the pressure of PTSD as well. I feel so much for you as I have always wanted to do a couple of jobs but having PTSD affects me so much, it has a huge effect on my job that I so love to do and have built my life around threating me to nearly shut in down at least half a dozen times. I wish you the very best in what ever decision you make and just remember to get as much support as you can to help you whichever way you choose. Maybe there could be a side job that you could do that doesn't see action but you can still be in there doing it.