Just Can't Cope

[Ipebi]

I'm wrestling with my emotions. My sufferer was very suicidal and told me about it. He came to me with all his problems, opened up to me about so much but then ended it. We now have very little contact and I'm so torn. I feel hurt and angry about how he treated me but I feel worried about his mental state. I feel so sick over everything, literally really sick. I just can't cope with this. I just don't now what to do or how to handle this.

 

[Icako]

Maybe it's time for very little contact to become no contact at all. At what point in time did he become more important to you than your own sanity? it's time to end it. Period. Grieve and move on.

 

[Emeted]

It sounds like a defensive thing for him. I remember there was a couple times when I told my wife a little to much and I could tell it was to much by how she reacted and realized that I told her to much so then I shut down a little. I love her but I don't want to tell her to much because it can cause what I tend to call the deer in the headlights look.

Sounds like he could have told you maybe more then he planned on telling you and has pulled away to get a handle on things and think about things. It is really a tough thing as a sufferer telling our supporter because at least I want to try and protect my wife from myself in a way by not telling her to much because I don't my stuff to affect her.

He might be having very little contact with you because he's afraid that he told you to much and that you now want to break up with him because he told you to much. I would recommend thanking him for opening up to you about what he's going through and if you are fully commited to him tell him that you are there for him. If you aren't commited to him still thank him for opening up to you and just be honest. If you weren't sure how to handle what he told you let him know. Tell him something alone the lines that you aren't quite sure how to handle the stuff that he opens up to you about but that you are glad that he feels like he can open up to you.