Hello,
Thank you all for your wonderful posts and threads about these issues. I am not a stranger to PTSD but until recently I had never known any combat veterans. I met this guy on a dating website. He seemed genuinely interested in me and we got along pretty well. We talked for hours and he seemed to like me a lot - he kept telling me how rad he thought I was and that he wanted a serious girlfriend. We had been talking daily for hours via skype and finally I arranged to meet him / hang out with him for the first time 2 nights ago. Randomly, 5 or 6 hours before I was planning on driving down to meet him he got weird and told me not to come - that he wasn't ready for a serious relationship. I was kind of amused because we hadn't even met each other yet and I wasn't asking him for any kind of commitment or anything. I told him this and he told me he didn't want to have sex but that I could come over to watch TV and sleep. I thought it was strange but I agreed to still come. That night we had a very good time talking and watching movies. We didn't have sex even though he eventually really wanted to but, we made out and held each other and he was very affectionate to me. He kept wanting me to hold him and I did and it was very nice. Within 24 hours he stopped communicating with me except for yes and no answers. Then he said "I need to tell you I'm not interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with you. Sorry to be blunt but to not tell you would be leading you on. Good luck." I was taken aback because it was so sudden and I responded by telling him that I appreciated his honesty but that I was a little confused about why he changed his mind so quickly. He told me not to make it more awkward than it needed to be and to just let it be and accept the truth and not to talk to him again. I told him that it was ok but that what he said was harsh and dissmissive. He then told me "I don't like you - there. Just deal with it. Im going to block you because I don't need this. " And right away he blocked me. Honestly, my head is spinning and I feel hurt and confused. Ive been rejected before and of course it is hard but Ive never been rejected this way and I just want to know if this kind of thing is normal for vets with PTSD. Im just mystified and I feel like an idiot.
Thank you all for your wonderful posts and threads about these issues. I am not a stranger to PTSD but until recently I had never known any combat veterans. I met this guy on a dating website. He seemed genuinely interested in me and we got along pretty well. We talked for hours and he seemed to like me a lot - he kept telling me how rad he thought I was and that he wanted a serious girlfriend. We had been talking daily for hours via skype and finally I arranged to meet him / hang out with him for the first time 2 nights ago. Randomly, 5 or 6 hours before I was planning on driving down to meet him he got weird and told me not to come - that he wasn't ready for a serious relationship. I was kind of amused because we hadn't even met each other yet and I wasn't asking him for any kind of commitment or anything. I told him this and he told me he didn't want to have sex but that I could come over to watch TV and sleep. I thought it was strange but I agreed to still come. That night we had a very good time talking and watching movies. We didn't have sex even though he eventually really wanted to but, we made out and held each other and he was very affectionate to me. He kept wanting me to hold him and I did and it was very nice. Within 24 hours he stopped communicating with me except for yes and no answers. Then he said "I need to tell you I'm not interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with you. Sorry to be blunt but to not tell you would be leading you on. Good luck." I was taken aback because it was so sudden and I responded by telling him that I appreciated his honesty but that I was a little confused about why he changed his mind so quickly. He told me not to make it more awkward than it needed to be and to just let it be and accept the truth and not to talk to him again. I told him that it was ok but that what he said was harsh and dissmissive. He then told me "I don't like you - there. Just deal with it. Im going to block you because I don't need this. " And right away he blocked me. Honestly, my head is spinning and I feel hurt and confused. Ive been rejected before and of course it is hard but Ive never been rejected this way and I just want to know if this kind of thing is normal for vets with PTSD. Im just mystified and I feel like an idiot.
