Lack Of Friends

[trying2movefwd]

It's hard for me right now. I am learning things about my closest friends that really hurt. I don't trust easily so making new friends takes me a very long time. I feel kind of friendless and lonely today. I guess that's why I like animals. Animals don't talk behind your back, they don't judge, they are quick to forgive, great listeners, and super sensitive....why can't people be more like that? I hate PTSD. People don't "get me". :cry:

 

[rosey]

i joke that I have a 5year time on calling someone a friend in fact there is a good bit of truth to it. it takes me a long time to form what i consider to be a friendship. I am very capable in terms of chatting away and small talking but for the reasons you note above I do not like to rush in. I find it very odd when people refer to me as a friend when I have only known them for a minute. I have some great friends but still have days when i feel very lonely i think maybe it is another curse of ptsd it is a lonely place hey.

 

[Silver.]

I find it is very hard to make friends. The ones I do have live 1500 miles away. I have been told "well you have an s/o and a child, you shouldn't be lonely". I love my little family, but they don't count in the grand scheme of needing people to connect with. I completely understand what you are going through and so sorry that you have to go through it because it gets so lonely
*hugs*

 

[trying2movefwd]

Thanks. I have two little ones and no s/o right now. But yes I get the " but you have your children " Yes I love them very much, but sometimes I just need a friend.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Im sorry @trying2movefwd! I know what it feels like to be completely alone; no family, no friends, no one and its a horrible feeling. Sucks that happened with a friend(s) as trust is so hard as it is! Dont let that keep you from going out and making new friends! You make a wonderful friend and dont you forget that! :hug:

 

[Glo809]

Greetings

There are people in my life who I do spend time with, talk current events and just pass the time...... then I pay my tab and go home.

I do not have a single "friend" to hang out with. And I am OK with that, which is why I work well overnights where I can be alone.

G

 

[Deleted member 541]

Friendship isn't all it's cracked up to be....(joking) I know that most of us with PTSD feel that we are alone, because we feel we have limitations due to symptoms. Sometimes we don't reach out, for fear of getting hurt or pushed away. We feel that we can't trust so we hold to much too close to the vest( as they say). Our symptoms flare and it feels like we are grounded and can't move forward, so we isolate more, we fear saying the wrong thing, so we usually don't say anything, or we get giddy and say too much.

What all of us need to remember is... We are all human. We make mistakes. We don't give up though. If we all gave up, and isolated, then the world would just stop. Yes, there is fear, but it won't KILL us. It's a bit uncomfortable, but we can weather through it. If someone disses you, then just move on from that friendship. It's OK, people come and go in our lives, they don't always stay. But it's OK!!!,

 

[Sideways]

I'm with you on the Lonesome Ship. And it's shite.

But I will say that I think people "getting" us can be overrated.

To seperate it a bit from the extremely personal: take a refugee who has escaped persecution in their homeland and had to resettle in a completely foreign country. How could anyone in their new country reslly ever "get" them? You know? Doesn't mean they can't make new, genuine friendships. Just means that their friends will have a very different experience of life.

That's meant to make it sound hopeful for the rest of us that people will never really "get". Not sure if it came across that way.

 

[EveHarrington]

It's ok------children cannot emotionally support you as an adult friend could-----not should they.

It's about fulfilling a specific type of relationship. :hug:

 

[meaninglessmeander]

I have always been a bit of a people pleaser and a calm, peace loving person, but of late I am so confrontational and irritable. I fly off the handle and it is so not like me. I think this is one of the reasons I don't have anyone in my life right now. I've friends of 27 years who I suddenly can't bear to be around because they can't possibly understand how this is. And they make me angry .... and I don't understand why. Darkest depression with constant off the scale anxiety. I know I have distanced myself but it wasn't a conscious decision and I don't know how to get back. People I know, family too, say 'we're here for you'. But they are not. They have busy lives and their own issues. If I ask for time or help ... well I don't know how or what to ask for. I've been living this hell for 6 years now and it worsens every day. I get more and more isolated.