Leaving The Safety Of The Forum

[ROOFTILES]

Something helpful - could you choose an object that represents the forum, to you... for me it is a picture of a field of sunflowers, representing us all together feeling at our best.
This object can be taken with you anywhere and when you feel the need, touch or look at your object to establish a feeling of connection with us all. This leads to good chemicals in the brain (dopamine) and can help soothe the twitchy feelings.
Good luck and neva giv up!

 

[Kintsugi]

I just did a 48+ hour detox. Seriously needed it. I had become someone and something that was no longer productive and no longer the Simon I can love. Strange how spiraling happens so quickly and blindly.

In my breaks from the forum, I have found quite a lot of new valuable ways to route my healing energies. In deciding to restructure my life and refocus my energy, so too I plan on restructuring how I use this resource, staying closer to the values I have always held as a member here.

I have to concur with @The Albatross when it comes to not seeing the forum as a place of play, even though it can be that, too, just as even my most grueling work situations included some bit of play in the interludes. I strayed from the hard work that should and absolutely does occur here. Not sure how I got so far from my path, but I think I've regained sight of the trailhead.

 

[Changing4Best]

I was having problems with my mind yesterday, so I stayed away from here and read a book instead. I'm not sure what was happening with my mind and how to describe it. It did not seem like dissociation. None the less, reading seemed to block out what was happening, so the book came in handy. I think my mind is back to normal today, so I am happy to be here. I like the idea of designating some kind of object to the Forum. I think I shall do that. I have not decided what object I will choose yet. I'll let you all know when I do and what I choose. Until then....

 

[Go Hungry]

I've left the forum a few times, for various reasons. The first time it was because I was so wrapped up in it that I had to get away.. That post about symptoms getting worse if you don't keep an eye on yourself is pretty accurate. It had become almost an obsession of it's own, to me. Since then I mostly drop in and out as time permits. Things have been rough lately, so here I am. I do really love this place though. The people here helped me through one of the most important moments of my life so far, and for that I am eternally grateful. Also it's just good to have people around who just... get it; you know? People who don't think you suck for being injured. Society pretty well despises the injured, at least where I am from. Anyways, I'm rambling...

 

[KP the nut]

I am now around very infrequently. Life is continuing and it is good. In fact it is hard to look at myself now and realise I was that person crippled with PTSD. I am so lucky. Obviously I still have wobbly moments but I bounce back.

This forum helped me so much. I wasn't on my own. I have made some good friends, as has my Hubby. Please keep plugging away a moment at a time.

 

[Recovery4Me]

@KP the nut Congrats & bully for you!:tup:

 

[Nighthawk]

The forum is not a place of play. I actually feel that this is a testing ground a place full of knowledge a place to challange my beliefs. Somewhere I learnt to have a voice.

Also really wanted to congratulate any and all that have challanged themselves away from whatever it is that may keep them from living a fuller life.

 

[Gadgie]

Quote......."I have seen a lot of people leave the forum to just live their lives without the forum and who knows when that day will come for me."

Well if it ever does come, you will be well in the way of being cured, now there's a thought to think about.

I'm back down to that serious point where I was, when I first joined this site, as I've had a really rough spell recently, and the news from the solicitor who was supposed to be sorting out a legal problem for me, has left me devastated!

Now, with my house ownership in doubt, my feelings for my late wife, who I always thought was my sole mate, have come under suspicion and are changing, and that makes me feel really sad????

 

[Nighthawk]

Today is the day I choose to allow myself to step back to make space.

 

[Recovery4Me]

@Nighthawk Love your avatar and attitude. ((((hugs))) I am stepping back as well following your lead. Xx