LGBT (Lesbian ,Gay, Bi-Sexual and Transgender) People with PTSD : LGBT (Lesbian ,Gay, Bi-Sexual and

[Dylan]

Hi EmoxxKid,

Nice to "meet" you.

I'm doing pretty well on my end. My current challenge is that work is still triggering, but my skill level is finally such that I'm getting somewhere with it. So, I guess I'd list that as an accomplishment, as well.

How's it going on your end?

 

[skye]

Just wanted to say hi to everyone......

 

[Manic11]

Hi everyone. Glad there's this group :)
Hope all is well with everyone...

Manic

 

[sky dancer]

Hi folks--

My father was gay, and I'm a lesbian. My dad's oppression as a closeted gay man contributed to his mental illness, absence from my life when I was a child, and subsequent placement of me in foster care--where I was severely abused.

My father attempted suicide many times and finally succeeded in 1981. That is one of the traumas of my life.

I wonder if anyone else considers gay and lesbian oppression in the category of trauma.

The violent crime that touched off my PTSD two years ago had a hate crime element. (slurs along with battering).

Your thoughts?

 

[Dylan]

Hi All -

Sky dancer - I'm terribly sorry to hear about your father. I do think that societal rejection can be devastating. I don't know if it can lead to PTSD, but certainly to introjected shame, self-loathing and despair. I have read several books (Stone Butch Blues being a prime example) of how desperate the lives of some of our predecessors became.

I think hate crimes and oppression to particular groups are especially heinous because they target entire groups of people that hate mongers want to destroy. Knowing that people actually hate me (religious, 'god is love' people, mind you) just because I exist is sad. To be alone, with an entire society being rabid and witch-hunting....horrible.

Does it strike anyone else as odd that these so-called "Christians" are so damned obsessed with gay people? I've never heard a peep about the City of Sin outta these folks (and what about drive-thru marriages? What about sanctity of marriage?) but they are positively obsessed with us! They call us perverts, but I think it is they who are perverted - what else do you call someone who is fixated on another's life, and are so focused and obsessed, they make that life about sex, and sex alone??

I work with a fundamentalist Christian - who is on her THIRD marriage, while my relationship is in it's 23rd year. Statisically speaking, most serial killers are white Republican males so....if we want to preemptively attack "sin" shouldn't we just, I dunno, make them illegal?

Ok, I'll stop.

-Dylan

 

[WorkingThruIt]

Did anyone else manage to make it to some pride events?

I just cannot hack the crowded events, like the parade. Any really, how many men do I need to see in leather shorts on the back of cars? (that was totally a joke, I know there is more to see than that at the parade)

I was scheduled to go to pride night at one of the WNBA (women's basketball) games, but the swiss cheese brain got the better of me and I thought the game started three hours later than it actually did...oops. I had another outing scheduled, but had a very bad reaction to trying Effexor and spent all day in bed sick.

Maybe I'll have better luck next year.

 

[WorkingThruIt]

To respond to Dylan,

The hypocrisy drives me insane. My parents sent me to a private, southern baptist high school (and they wonder why I am an atheist now). I have read the bible, the whole damn thing. The bible is not preoccupied with queers, but its followers certainly are...even the ones hiring male prostitutes and getting BJs in airport bathrooms. The "sanctity of marriage" argument gets me every time. I usually say something along the lines of "Why are loving relationships ruining the sanctity of marriage but game shows like Who Wants to Marry a Millionaire are somehow acceptable?" It is such bullshit. I am tired of people trying to write their perception of their religion in our laws.

As you may be able to tell, this is a pet peeve of mine. Thanks for letting me rant.

 

[Dylan]

Hey there, WTI,

Yep, I made it to our local (pretty small, but lots of heart) PRIDE. It was ok, but...heh heh, I had to laugh at your take on some of the, uh, drawbacks of PRIDEs. I concur!

Last year, actually almost exactly a year ago, my partner and I went to the SF pride and got married while in CA (6/30 is our wedding anniversary). That was a terrific amount of fun. We did the Dyke March which was an incredible experience - so many proud, wonderful women marching through the streets.

I hear ya, re: sanctity of marriage. Drive thru marriages in LV, but god forbid, 2 same-sex consenting, loving adults want to be monogamous, eh? (and if we're NOT, the RR [rabid right] loves to point out how unwholesome and promiscuous we are! LMAO... just like rabid animals can't make any sense of anything, neither can rabid righties....

-Dylan

 

[erikjms]

I see this group still has members, but I thought it would be quicker just to ask this question than to search on all of your user names: who all is still here? Is the room full of quiet people or has everyone left? There are a couple of things I'd like to talk about in relation to being transgendered with PTSD, and though I will probably post about it on the wider forum I'd really be happy to know that some LGBT folks were actively reading. Anyone home?

 

[emmat]

I've just joined this forum and was pretty happy to see a LGBT group - I'll try and remember to keep checking in!

 

[alyxa]

Hello!

I am glad to see this group here. One of the hardest things for me to deal with lately, has been that my first real relationship with a female, my first girlfriend... ended up being one of my abusers. I've had more abusers that were male (since childhood even), but this was particularly difficult. I'm not sure how to explain right now. She almost killed me and is facing felony charges by the state. Its just been so hard going through this process in addition to already having had severe CPTSD.

Thank you all for listening!

 

[mumblinword]

Hello everyone,

I just wanted to check in and say 'hi'. My name is Ron and I live in Pittsburgh, PA.

Warm regards to all