Nyssa
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Recently, my mother has done something I find very disturbing, and I don't know what to think of it.
I never saw her as a pervert. She has always deployed great efforts to remain in denial of all the sexual abuse going on in the family. She is incredibly selfish and can be quite manipulative too. But this stuff she has done... I have a hard time explaining it.
Some background :
20 years ago, a young cousin of mine accused my brother of fondling. He denied it but she did not really buy it. And ever since then, she has known her son "had a problem". Before that, she also knew "he was in love with me" (her words). She never did anything about any of it. My brother would share is obsessive "love" -- supposedly pure and non-sexual -- of little girls with her and she wouldn't condemn it. Earlier this year, my brother was convicted for having sexually abused no less than 15 children, boys and girls, ranging from 3 to 10 years old. He denied most of it, but did confess some of it, and he admitted being attracted to little girls. Maybe for all these years, my mother had convinced herself her son was just weird and immature. But now, she sure as hell knows what he is now. She even apologized to the victims' parents for having been so blind.
Last week, I heard she approached one of my cousin to ask her pictures of her 3-year old daughter... for my brother. She even suggested the possibility of a visit in prison, with the little girl. Thank god, the cousin refused.
This cousin used to be one of my brother's little princesses. She says he did not abuse her, and I hope it is true, but he definitely groomed her... right in front of my mother. My cousin is in denial of her grooming, and she remained in contact with my brother until he was put in custody 4 years ago. Now she has a beautiful little girl, and my mother asks her to send my brother pictures of her.
To me, it looks like she is willing to hand sex material to her son and even help him recruiting future victims (he should get out in 6 years or so). And I wonder : How could she not see it? How could this be just good old denial? He is a convicted child rapist for God's sake!
What is your take on this, if you have any?
I never saw her as a pervert. She has always deployed great efforts to remain in denial of all the sexual abuse going on in the family. She is incredibly selfish and can be quite manipulative too. But this stuff she has done... I have a hard time explaining it.
Some background :
20 years ago, a young cousin of mine accused my brother of fondling. He denied it but she did not really buy it. And ever since then, she has known her son "had a problem". Before that, she also knew "he was in love with me" (her words). She never did anything about any of it. My brother would share is obsessive "love" -- supposedly pure and non-sexual -- of little girls with her and she wouldn't condemn it. Earlier this year, my brother was convicted for having sexually abused no less than 15 children, boys and girls, ranging from 3 to 10 years old. He denied most of it, but did confess some of it, and he admitted being attracted to little girls. Maybe for all these years, my mother had convinced herself her son was just weird and immature. But now, she sure as hell knows what he is now. She even apologized to the victims' parents for having been so blind.
Last week, I heard she approached one of my cousin to ask her pictures of her 3-year old daughter... for my brother. She even suggested the possibility of a visit in prison, with the little girl. Thank god, the cousin refused.
This cousin used to be one of my brother's little princesses. She says he did not abuse her, and I hope it is true, but he definitely groomed her... right in front of my mother. My cousin is in denial of her grooming, and she remained in contact with my brother until he was put in custody 4 years ago. Now she has a beautiful little girl, and my mother asks her to send my brother pictures of her.
To me, it looks like she is willing to hand sex material to her son and even help him recruiting future victims (he should get out in 6 years or so). And I wonder : How could she not see it? How could this be just good old denial? He is a convicted child rapist for God's sake!
What is your take on this, if you have any?
