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loui50
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I'm not exactly sure what you are asking. But I'll answer best I can. When I felt "Done" I applied for disability. I was approved. I can't hide any more and needed to be able to be me and deal with what I'm going through. Sorry If that doesn't help you at all.
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nope. i cant feel anything.
@loui50 : thank you but cannot apply for anything. if ever someone knew i am not able to carry on, it will end me.
SeekingAfrica
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For school/uni or for work? I have feeling it would be different. Can you be more specific so we can try to help more? Do you live alone? Do you have to apprear operational in lectures or in 8h work day?
If you're studying, can you take semester off?
If you're working, can you take paid time off? Or unpaid time off and pay it yourself? Do you know what things recharge you in between? Is the thing you have to appear operation for temporary or long-term?
I've had different "keeping it together" strategies for different times. I've also had times when nothing was enough and I just had to take a break. I can list them all, but it would be too long. That's why I'm asking for specifics.
In essence it usually boils down to:
Taking care of yourself/reducing symptoms (self-care, reducing stressors, meds, therapy, distraction kits, activities, improving quality of life)
Making health choices(like taking break) if needed (reduce work/study, take break., take vacation, make one day trips or mental health days)
Finding something to hold on to/live for/recharge from(future plans, hobbies, passions)
And a lot a lot more, of course...
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it is for work.
i do.
have to look normal and operational for 6h in a row.
have no family to take care so money isnt an issue to me.
i'm sorry, i dont get what you're talking about.
i assume i have to appear operation for as far as i stand.
guys, i really need tips cause 3 days ago i have almost been caught red handed. thought i was alone for 5 minutes. did hide myself on the stairs behind the safety exit. began to scream. unluckily, have been heard. had to lie but i doubt i could deceive anyone. now she's probably thinkin i'm weak or a freaking sicko. i cannot bear disappointment in her eyes. i cannot.
SeekingAfrica
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Can you take any time off of that work? It doesn't seem like it's good place for you at all....
By recharge I meant, what do you do to rest, what gives you a little more strength to manage at least another day? Is the problem having job you have that stresses you(hence making your issues worse), or is it just that you need time off to get better yourself, but then would like to return to the same job?
I've had jobs that I had to do at a time when just getting up to get ready for work made me want to cry. And every minute at these jobs I could barely stand. Things I've done, if I have to "keep it together"...
One job I was that way with was for 6 months. One thing that helped was knowing it was temporary.
So if you know that job will never be a good environment, it will help having a purpose to look forward to- steps towards a job that will help you more for example. For me, it was returning to uni and working towards online work and having my own business. I looked at pictures of my university every day on the way to work.
I also got up earlier to have proper breakfast and watch a TV show I liked. I had 2 h walks after work in park blasting music I love in my mp3. I met a friend in cafes like...3 times a week, because we both needed a break that much. I also ate thing I enjoyed every day(that was kind of unhealthy but I was teenager at the time so it didn't affect me as much. no way I can do that today)
Granted, all that was at simpler times before things got much worse mentally for me.
2 years ago I got to a state where I was barely working. The type of job didn't matter.
I ended up taking some(low dose) anxiety meds, and going to therapy weekly. I journaled, meditated and tried to set goals. I learned coping strategies for the specific things I struggled with- I made a list, I asked, I researched. None of that helped by itself, but over time things gathered and got better slowly.
For recharging I now go to dance classes. Ballet is passion of mine, and although it's really tough to do with all my issues...it's my passion. So every time I go there, it's like being in a different(much better) world. And it makes it just a bit easier to deal with everything I deal with daily. So you need to find something like that, whatever that is.
I also have anxiety that is often pushed to the surface sometimes by outside factors, so I started carrying anxiety kit with me. Something to eat for low blood sugar, music, perfume I like, headache meds etc. I have sudoku and meditation apps on my phone. I've seen that I get really cold when anxious so I drink hot drinks when I start feeling that way. I journal about my past and write it out to get it out of me. I've figured out that being hungry, tired, overwhelmed, makes my symptoms worse, so I try to be prepared to manage that even when I'm out.
As I said, you need to figure out your specific needs and manage them. To reduce your symptoms, improve your health, learn to cope better, and have a reason to push through bad times. And if all else fails, take time off.
Why were you screaming in the staircase? I didn't understand that. And what did you tell whoever overheard? May be it's not so bad.
What would you say are the things/ symptoms you struggle with the most daily at that work?
Again, is it the work, or your current state?
What would you say are your biggest needs currently?
Knowing the answers to these questions is a step towards a solution.
And by what you describe it seems you need to break this down into manageable parts. It's not one solution kind of thing.
Just remember that it's okay to have those times. We all struggle sometimes...or a lot of the times. And people are a lot more understanding than you think. But I get it, it's a really hard situation. Try to break it down and figure it out. And I'll try to help as much as I can too.
By recharge I meant, what do you do to rest, what gives you a little more strength to manage at least another day? Is the problem having job you have that stresses you(hence making your issues worse), or is it just that you need time off to get better yourself, but then would like to return to the same job?
I've had jobs that I had to do at a time when just getting up to get ready for work made me want to cry. And every minute at these jobs I could barely stand. Things I've done, if I have to "keep it together"...
One job I was that way with was for 6 months. One thing that helped was knowing it was temporary.
So if you know that job will never be a good environment, it will help having a purpose to look forward to- steps towards a job that will help you more for example. For me, it was returning to uni and working towards online work and having my own business. I looked at pictures of my university every day on the way to work.
I also got up earlier to have proper breakfast and watch a TV show I liked. I had 2 h walks after work in park blasting music I love in my mp3. I met a friend in cafes like...3 times a week, because we both needed a break that much. I also ate thing I enjoyed every day(that was kind of unhealthy but I was teenager at the time so it didn't affect me as much. no way I can do that today)
Granted, all that was at simpler times before things got much worse mentally for me.
2 years ago I got to a state where I was barely working. The type of job didn't matter.
I ended up taking some(low dose) anxiety meds, and going to therapy weekly. I journaled, meditated and tried to set goals. I learned coping strategies for the specific things I struggled with- I made a list, I asked, I researched. None of that helped by itself, but over time things gathered and got better slowly.
For recharging I now go to dance classes. Ballet is passion of mine, and although it's really tough to do with all my issues...it's my passion. So every time I go there, it's like being in a different(much better) world. And it makes it just a bit easier to deal with everything I deal with daily. So you need to find something like that, whatever that is.
I also have anxiety that is often pushed to the surface sometimes by outside factors, so I started carrying anxiety kit with me. Something to eat for low blood sugar, music, perfume I like, headache meds etc. I have sudoku and meditation apps on my phone. I've seen that I get really cold when anxious so I drink hot drinks when I start feeling that way. I journal about my past and write it out to get it out of me. I've figured out that being hungry, tired, overwhelmed, makes my symptoms worse, so I try to be prepared to manage that even when I'm out.
As I said, you need to figure out your specific needs and manage them. To reduce your symptoms, improve your health, learn to cope better, and have a reason to push through bad times. And if all else fails, take time off.
Why were you screaming in the staircase? I didn't understand that. And what did you tell whoever overheard? May be it's not so bad.
What would you say are the things/ symptoms you struggle with the most daily at that work?
Again, is it the work, or your current state?
What would you say are your biggest needs currently?
Knowing the answers to these questions is a step towards a solution.
And by what you describe it seems you need to break this down into manageable parts. It's not one solution kind of thing.
Just remember that it's okay to have those times. We all struggle sometimes...or a lot of the times. And people are a lot more understanding than you think. But I get it, it's a really hard situation. Try to break it down and figure it out. And I'll try to help as much as I can too.
joeylittle
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Are you in therapy, @m0580?
Tip: keep your mind on the work. Even if it's simple work - pay attention to the very small moment to moment of it.
Does that make sense?
Tip: keep your mind on the work. Even if it's simple work - pay attention to the very small moment to moment of it.
Does that make sense?
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it is complete.
i cleaned up after me this afternoon. then got up and walked away. as ever, said no word. and im pretty sure they will slander me and be labelled as the bad guy as always. screw it, i'm too out to lunch to care. good point, i quited peacefully this time which is something at least. did hang around in the street until the time i usually leave. then went back home.
dont even know why i write this on here. i assume it is since you guys are living so far from me than you cannot be a threat. thank you.
i cleaned up after me this afternoon. then got up and walked away. as ever, said no word. and im pretty sure they will slander me and be labelled as the bad guy as always. screw it, i'm too out to lunch to care. good point, i quited peacefully this time which is something at least. did hang around in the street until the time i usually leave. then went back home.
dont even know why i write this on here. i assume it is since you guys are living so far from me than you cannot be a threat. thank you.
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