anthony
Founder
DD, only you can make those decisions in regard to you health and financial situations. I guess from my POV, it's rare to ever see a person with PTSD maintain employment within a high stress position, instead those with PTSD who do work, often work with children for the therapeudic aspects, they work in non-profit, employment that requires little stress or interaction with the public, or they work for themselves to self manage stress and anxiety.
What I will say is this. In the above post you made, you are thinking for others, in that you are already making assumptions of what will happen if you talk with your superiors about your stress. I have no doubt the other two you mentioned did the same thing, so instead of discussion, they made their own decisions, decisions which could have turned out vastly different. Saying that though, you do need to be realistic and expect the worst if you do discuss this with your bosses.
I do believe though that when your ready to make decisions, before making them, you do discuss with your bosses about your stress and the impact it is having upon you, and your PTSD if you believe it needs to be brought into the discussion to help mediation along. I very well understand the employer and employee aspects, as I have also been on both sides of the fence personally.
What you do need to come to terms with now though, is that your using negative thinking styles by catastrophising the situation for more than what it is, being a decision that needs attention; you are personalising and blaming by using statements such as "failing", in that you can't fail at something that is out of your control... and you do not have control of your PTSD at present, thus you cannot be at fault, because you are suffering a known medical mental condition that comes with the effects your currently suffering and enduring... you have no control over your trauma at this point.
Your employment and financial status is something you and your partner must discuss rationally, and look at the effects upon your health and mental status, the overall impact on your relationship and so forth. You MUST discuss, NOT argue with your partner about this. Discussion needs two or more people to logically and calmly discuss a matter, not one or the other become angry or force their opinion or decision upon the other. Discussion must be a mutual decision including all the facts at hand.
Options are an important part of your decision making process, in that if once you have discussed with your employer about this, what options are available towards possible part-time hours for months to come whilst you tackle your trauma head on, and I do mean months, and employers must know this and accept it, and not think as they often will, a few weeks or a month and everything will be back to normal. If an employer is worth their weight, and the employee is worth the investment, then both parties can usually come to mutual satisfactory arrangements to appease both.
Are there further options, ie. you start up your own business, or wife, whilst you are still employed but struggling, to quickly provide some revenue stream so you can leave full-time employment. Can you take up what you want to do, as you have said you don't really like what your doing, so maybe now is a good time to see if you partner can help you start a business that you enjoy, or even both mutually enjoy, and can be worked at from a lesser scale that you are currently doing... thus reducing the stress.
Options, options, options... I am sure you can come up with a long list of them if you and your partner discuss them.
What I will say is this. In the above post you made, you are thinking for others, in that you are already making assumptions of what will happen if you talk with your superiors about your stress. I have no doubt the other two you mentioned did the same thing, so instead of discussion, they made their own decisions, decisions which could have turned out vastly different. Saying that though, you do need to be realistic and expect the worst if you do discuss this with your bosses.
I do believe though that when your ready to make decisions, before making them, you do discuss with your bosses about your stress and the impact it is having upon you, and your PTSD if you believe it needs to be brought into the discussion to help mediation along. I very well understand the employer and employee aspects, as I have also been on both sides of the fence personally.
What you do need to come to terms with now though, is that your using negative thinking styles by catastrophising the situation for more than what it is, being a decision that needs attention; you are personalising and blaming by using statements such as "failing", in that you can't fail at something that is out of your control... and you do not have control of your PTSD at present, thus you cannot be at fault, because you are suffering a known medical mental condition that comes with the effects your currently suffering and enduring... you have no control over your trauma at this point.
Your employment and financial status is something you and your partner must discuss rationally, and look at the effects upon your health and mental status, the overall impact on your relationship and so forth. You MUST discuss, NOT argue with your partner about this. Discussion needs two or more people to logically and calmly discuss a matter, not one or the other become angry or force their opinion or decision upon the other. Discussion must be a mutual decision including all the facts at hand.
Options are an important part of your decision making process, in that if once you have discussed with your employer about this, what options are available towards possible part-time hours for months to come whilst you tackle your trauma head on, and I do mean months, and employers must know this and accept it, and not think as they often will, a few weeks or a month and everything will be back to normal. If an employer is worth their weight, and the employee is worth the investment, then both parties can usually come to mutual satisfactory arrangements to appease both.
Are there further options, ie. you start up your own business, or wife, whilst you are still employed but struggling, to quickly provide some revenue stream so you can leave full-time employment. Can you take up what you want to do, as you have said you don't really like what your doing, so maybe now is a good time to see if you partner can help you start a business that you enjoy, or even both mutually enjoy, and can be worked at from a lesser scale that you are currently doing... thus reducing the stress.
Options, options, options... I am sure you can come up with a long list of them if you and your partner discuss them.