Marijuana And Sex

[somerandomguy]

My primary PTSD symptom is complete sexual shutdown. I'm unhappy about it and it has done a number on my marriage, as you might expect.

I've heard for awhile that marijuana can relieve pre-sex anxiety, at least for some people. My last experience with pot was almost 25 years ago, and while it was not a positive experience by any means, I thought my circumstances are now sufficiently different (not least that marijuana has been effectively decriminalized in my city, at least for now) that it was worth a try.

Well, the experiment was a complete and unqualified success. It was as if the thinking, anxious part of my brain shut itself off, leaving nothing but the feeling, pleasure-craving part. I was able to have sexual feelings without shutting them down or flagellating myself for feeling them.

More than that, not only was I able to perform for for first time in more than five years, but I actually felt good about it. That's very different and new since I assumed that part of myself was ruined forever.

Part of it, I guess, is that I just felt safe during the whole event - something I rarely if ever feel during sex. I actually want to do this again.

 

[Finchlet2]

I suffer massively from sexual shut down and it is so destructive for my marriage. I smoke weed regularly and recently hasn't been helping or making things worse I'm just numb. My husband is struggling with this and I feel so guilty for not being able to satisfy him although he does try very hard not to put pressure on me. I think the hardest thought if what if i'm always going to be like this? Have I condemned him to a life of celibacy? I want to I just CA'NT. Arghhhhhhhhf*ckThisShittingFear.

 

[somerandomguy]

Yeah, it sucks. No doubt about it. Until I had my weed experience, I thought I was doomed to never be able to have enjoyable sex again.

I just have a couple of suggestions which by all means you can ignore, since I am not any kind of expert.

Are you in couples therapy? Until we found our latest counselor, I never would have recommended this, but the one we have is simply great.

Are you in therapy? My current therapist is worth 100x all the other therapists I've had put together, so this isn't something easy to find.

And lastly, have you considered putting down the pipe, at least for a little while? I know little to nothing about marijuana, admittedly, but I have heard that smoking habitually can make things worse, not better, for us trauma victims.

Wishing you well.

 

[Finchlet2]

I am on the waiting list for therapy, the mental health side of the nhs is massively underfunded here but I do have contact with a triage nurse who can see me if I get suicidal till then I just have to be patient (or not yet). Soz I use humour as a coping mechanism. My hubby and me would both try couples councilling and have talked about it loads but don't know if the nhs offers it and can't afford to go private. It might be something I ask my T when I finally get a T. Wouldn't know how to look into it any ideas? My hubby smokes weed all the time so i kinda do it partially to socialise with him as most other times we spend together have become stressed as he is frustrated and i feel ashamed. I've given him free passes to cheat or watch porn or something to help him cope but he refuses. Gotta give the man credit eh?

 

[somerandomguy]

Sad to say I know nothing about the NHS as I live in the USA, and I'm sorry for your struggles trying to get health care.

Your hubby sounds like an interesting guy ... Smokes a ton of weed but doesn't watch porn? Huh.