adrian_newbridge
Bronze Member
Being diagnosed with PTSD is a bit like getting home to find there's a gorilla in your house. You contact the approved authorities, but they tell you, what you have here is a gorilla and there's not much we can do about that.
The gorilla in your house will cause problems in every part of your life. Your spouse may decide he/she can't deal with the gorilla and leave. Your boss may get upset that you've brought your gorilla to work with you and it's disrupting your work mates who don't know how to deal with gorillas. you're arriving for work wearing a suit the gorilla has slept on. Some days you don't turn up at all because the gorilla has barricaded you in the bathroom or sit on you so you can't get out of bed. Your friends will get cheesed off because they don't want to come to your house for fear of the gorilla, and the gorilla won't always let you out - your only topic of conversation is this darned gorilla and the devastation it's causing.
There are three major approaches to the gorilla in your house.
One is to ignore it and hope it will go away. This is unlikely to work. A 300 pound gorilla will sleep where he likes, and if thats on top of you, it WILL have an effect on you.
Another is to try and force the gorilla out, wrestling with it constantly, spending all your time fighting it. This often is a losing battle. Some choose to give all their money to to people who will come and wave crystals at the gorilla, from a safe distance of course. This doesn't work either.
I have known people spend the best years of their lives and tens of thousands of pounds/dollars trying to force the gorilla to go away. The gorilla might go for a while but will wander back into their house.
The third way to deal with the gorilla in your house is to accept it, tame it and make it part of your life. Figure out a way to calm your gorilla down. Teach it how to sit still until you are able to take it places with you without it making a scene. Negotiate with your boss about ways to accomodate, or even make use of your gorilla. Meet other people who live with gorillas and enjoy having something in common, and share gorilla taming tips.
People get really upset and suggest you enjoy having a gorrilla around because of the attention it gets you (while ignoring the massive pile of steaming gorilla turds in your bedroom every day and night). The best way to deal with these people is to smile and remind yourself that one day they too could have a gorilla in their house.
The gorilla in your house will cause problems in every part of your life. Your spouse may decide he/she can't deal with the gorilla and leave. Your boss may get upset that you've brought your gorilla to work with you and it's disrupting your work mates who don't know how to deal with gorillas. you're arriving for work wearing a suit the gorilla has slept on. Some days you don't turn up at all because the gorilla has barricaded you in the bathroom or sit on you so you can't get out of bed. Your friends will get cheesed off because they don't want to come to your house for fear of the gorilla, and the gorilla won't always let you out - your only topic of conversation is this darned gorilla and the devastation it's causing.
There are three major approaches to the gorilla in your house.
One is to ignore it and hope it will go away. This is unlikely to work. A 300 pound gorilla will sleep where he likes, and if thats on top of you, it WILL have an effect on you.
Another is to try and force the gorilla out, wrestling with it constantly, spending all your time fighting it. This often is a losing battle. Some choose to give all their money to to people who will come and wave crystals at the gorilla, from a safe distance of course. This doesn't work either.
I have known people spend the best years of their lives and tens of thousands of pounds/dollars trying to force the gorilla to go away. The gorilla might go for a while but will wander back into their house.
The third way to deal with the gorilla in your house is to accept it, tame it and make it part of your life. Figure out a way to calm your gorilla down. Teach it how to sit still until you are able to take it places with you without it making a scene. Negotiate with your boss about ways to accomodate, or even make use of your gorilla. Meet other people who live with gorillas and enjoy having something in common, and share gorilla taming tips.
People get really upset and suggest you enjoy having a gorrilla around because of the attention it gets you (while ignoring the massive pile of steaming gorilla turds in your bedroom every day and night). The best way to deal with these people is to smile and remind yourself that one day they too could have a gorilla in their house.
