Dearest Froggie- Bear, Deb and the others are right.
I do much paliative care work, and am and have been very frequently with the dying along the journey, including my own family members. Please trust me on one thing, it would be very rare (I have rarely seen it), for people to act out- Bear has said it exactly, our deaths (and lives) are what we are, not what we are not.
It is the unknown that most of us fear. But most of us remain much the same as we always were. The anger and rage I have seen, are frequently during illness, and even more so during old age, not the end of life (which no one knows entirely). And- I'm not kidding you- you know what the people will express is their biggest reason for their anger? "No one has 'come back' and told us how it is." (Their words). Much is in the realization we are not taking anything with us, too, only the intangibles, the love we've given and received, the kindnesses, the support and little things. You have more of that because you have given more, than almost anyone I know.
Dearest Froggie (M), you have always been there for me, even when the things I've said have been horrendous. Yes, I am sure one day, when you die you will go on to the most Beautiful Wonderful of New experiences (talk about candles! :inlove: :) ) . But we, and all those who love you, need you here for a very VERY long time to come. Keep living, keep hope, keep being yourself because you are Beautiful and very Precious.
Oddly enough, I don't believe any of us will react more poorly at that time because of ptsd. Quite the opposite, I think it is advantageous, we've faced eternal questions and realities pertaining to it than some people face only many years later. And we've practised acceptance- so many, many times. We don't realize (or give ourselves credit for) how much we live on a daily basis a bit apart, with different thoughts (and realities) from what people without ptsd might not consider or might take for granted.
(((((((Biggest Biggest Humungous of Hugs, xoxoxoxoxox))))))), Sweetest Froggie. Get to that Christmas Desert Party Planning.... :) :hug:
I do much paliative care work, and am and have been very frequently with the dying along the journey, including my own family members. Please trust me on one thing, it would be very rare (I have rarely seen it), for people to act out- Bear has said it exactly, our deaths (and lives) are what we are, not what we are not.
It is the unknown that most of us fear. But most of us remain much the same as we always were. The anger and rage I have seen, are frequently during illness, and even more so during old age, not the end of life (which no one knows entirely). And- I'm not kidding you- you know what the people will express is their biggest reason for their anger? "No one has 'come back' and told us how it is." (Their words). Much is in the realization we are not taking anything with us, too, only the intangibles, the love we've given and received, the kindnesses, the support and little things. You have more of that because you have given more, than almost anyone I know.
Dearest Froggie (M), you have always been there for me, even when the things I've said have been horrendous. Yes, I am sure one day, when you die you will go on to the most Beautiful Wonderful of New experiences (talk about candles! :inlove: :) ) . But we, and all those who love you, need you here for a very VERY long time to come. Keep living, keep hope, keep being yourself because you are Beautiful and very Precious.
Oddly enough, I don't believe any of us will react more poorly at that time because of ptsd. Quite the opposite, I think it is advantageous, we've faced eternal questions and realities pertaining to it than some people face only many years later. And we've practised acceptance- so many, many times. We don't realize (or give ourselves credit for) how much we live on a daily basis a bit apart, with different thoughts (and realities) from what people without ptsd might not consider or might take for granted.
(((((((Biggest Biggest Humungous of Hugs, xoxoxoxoxox))))))), Sweetest Froggie. Get to that Christmas Desert Party Planning.... :) :hug:
