I am finding that mindreading is a normal human communication that often gets really a bad name or confused with esotericis. In therapy talks, there are many times that the word mentalization or empathy is used to gauge what another human or even animal may be thinking. I came from an environment where often people talk more directly about what they may think your intention is and you correct or disagree depending the context and what they said or how it was said.
I guess I am just confused. I even think the whole transference is fancy word for reading others' mind or body language to help them. I think it is crazy making to say we do not have capacity to make real assessment of others' state of mind by relating to them and listening to them.
I guess my question is what are the serious consequences in relationship when people pretend not read others' mind or nonverbal ticks to make sense of a situation. I often said I cannot read that person's mind but I can very much take a good jab what they want or think based on my interaction. I do not shy away from it but I also do not think this is gospel written on a rock. But a friend of mine thinks it is a problem and even if I do, I should not admit outloud! what I am utterly confused.
I am interested if others have similar or interestingly divergent way of looking at this.
I guess I am just confused. I even think the whole transference is fancy word for reading others' mind or body language to help them. I think it is crazy making to say we do not have capacity to make real assessment of others' state of mind by relating to them and listening to them.
I guess my question is what are the serious consequences in relationship when people pretend not read others' mind or nonverbal ticks to make sense of a situation. I often said I cannot read that person's mind but I can very much take a good jab what they want or think based on my interaction. I do not shy away from it but I also do not think this is gospel written on a rock. But a friend of mine thinks it is a problem and even if I do, I should not admit outloud! what I am utterly confused.
I am interested if others have similar or interestingly divergent way of looking at this.