Hello Eliza,
know these situations very well. What I have been told is to train the ability to grasp that body sense which takes place in that moment, figuring out precisely step by step, what the look, headshaking,tone of voice, critical/reproachful quality creates. Nausea, heart pain? Me being abandoned AGAIN? My value being lessend and if so in which part of my body is this recognizeable? I usually get heart race, I get aggressive, breathing someshat shallow. To reduce this I must have a few tools. Breathe, A sentence in my palm to read, usually I write some quote regarding selfworth. And my T asked me to imagine me and the person infront me staying in a bubble.. that createa a distance between myself and that person. After that drinking a glas of cold water or smelling on peppermint or other stron oil. :-)
