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Changing4Best
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Sometimes when someone gets angry with me, I close my ears, shut off their tirade and ignore them. If it is in writing, I don't finish reading it. I just press "delete" or I close out what is written and go do something else. I deal with criticism more or less the same way. So I can miss something, even though I got the gist of what was being said.
My molester was famous for sending "hate mail." We would all get some letter that basically said that we were being cut out of a will, or that we were evil or some such. It was he that was evil, not us. So we would toss it in the garbage, half read, not bothering to finish reading what was going to just be some more hatred.
Who needed it!
Not me, that was for sure. We disowned him eventually. We refused his communications. When I say we, I mean myself and my family. (My parents, uncle and aunt, cousins, sibling and other distant relatives). None of us wanted anything to do with him. We all agreed on that!
So, if I get a nasty letter or email or something from someone, I usually deal with it more or less as I did with his hate mail. That is just what I learned to do as a youngster and what I have carried on doing all my many years. He is long dead, of course. I suppose I do not need to react to angry mail in this way any longer, but it is hard to change my ways at this stage in life. Besides, I very rarely get hate mail or nasty letters anyway. I can go years without one. None the less, old habits die hard.
My molester was famous for sending "hate mail." We would all get some letter that basically said that we were being cut out of a will, or that we were evil or some such. It was he that was evil, not us. So we would toss it in the garbage, half read, not bothering to finish reading what was going to just be some more hatred.
Who needed it!
Not me, that was for sure. We disowned him eventually. We refused his communications. When I say we, I mean myself and my family. (My parents, uncle and aunt, cousins, sibling and other distant relatives). None of us wanted anything to do with him. We all agreed on that!
So, if I get a nasty letter or email or something from someone, I usually deal with it more or less as I did with his hate mail. That is just what I learned to do as a youngster and what I have carried on doing all my many years. He is long dead, of course. I suppose I do not need to react to angry mail in this way any longer, but it is hard to change my ways at this stage in life. Besides, I very rarely get hate mail or nasty letters anyway. I can go years without one. None the less, old habits die hard.