Sufferer My Car Accident

[intothelight]

@Ruinedforever Welcome to the forum!

Keep reaching out for support and continue with your therapy and it will get better in time.

 

[cat-lady]

Welcome to the forum. I'm so sorry to hear that happened to you! I don't know what your belief system is but most belief systems in the world, including my own (Christian), believe that she is now in a better place. Her pain is over. Some day also her loved ones will be reunited with her. Faith is a huge part of my recovery. I hope that helps you too.

 

[Ruinedforever]

Welcome to the forum. I'm so sorry to hear that happened to you! I don't know what your belief system...

Thanks cat lady! It does make me feel better believing that she is in a better place. However, I don't really have a belief system.

I like your screen name though! Cats are the best! =^.^=

 

[cat-lady]

Thanks! Cats are the best! =^.^=

I myself didn't have a belief system for a long time since I was raised atheist but that changed over time through a process of prayer and reflection.

Anyway, good luck to you in your healing journey. Don't hesitate to reach out to this forum if you need anything. I have found it very helpful myself :)

 

[anthony]

Sorry to hear... being in a position where you have taken another's life is never an easy one. You really need to rely on the police information, and truly accept that if they don't believe it was you fault, then believe it. Accidents happen, regardless how traumatic they can be.

I'm glad I having a loving family and girlfriend for support.

This is what will actually get you through this. Family and partners are the single best source to confide within... getting it out of you to them. Don't expect them to fix anything for you, and don't ask them for such, but instead if they allow you to get things off of your chest, out of your head, then that is extremely important. Your therapist will help to fix the issues.

 

[RedKey707hp]

Your story left me speechless and heartbroken. I'm sure you will never forget this tragedy for the rest of your life, but please realize that what happened isn't a death sentence.

I'm glad that you have a loving GF to help you with unavoidable emotions and thoughts. In addition to her, your family, and friends; everyone here (myself included) will be here for you as well.

 

[Ruinedforever]

Your story left me speechless and heartbroken. I'm sure you will never forget this tragedy for the...

Thank you for your kind words, Red.

My therapist told me that this will be with me forever (no doubt) bit we have been working on skills so the thoughts aren't intrusive. Also we have been doing some "rephrasing" so the guilt is not on me. For example, in the past I said "I want to feel better but I can't" so she recommended I start saying/thinking "I can't feel better,but I want to..."

 

[Deleted member 28403]

Welcome to the forums :hug: I hope this place helps you. It's very useful because of the bulk amount of people who feel similar and understand. There is a lot of advice and support to be found here :) I hope that this amazing community helps you as much as it helped me, reading all the similar stories, and learning a lot along the way. Hugs if you accept :hug:

 

[Ruinedforever]

Your story left me speechless and heartbroken. I'm sure you will never forget this tragedy for the...

My girlfriend is the best ;)

 

[Ka-9]

Welcome to the forums..... My thought is there is no explicit expiry date per say, so no matter how bad things are/or seem, you gotta' stay positive to some degree, because with the right effort, help, and luck? Maybe you crest the climb and can finally enjoy the view again.

 

[Thiscantbereal]

An almost identical thing happened to me. It's been three months and I still go into shock when I get overwhelmed by the emotions. I accept that I'll never be the same as I was before, but I also wonder how long it will take to heal. How has your progress been these past few months?