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My Daughter Got Beat Up By Her Husband Last Night While She Was Asleep
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My daughters husband got a continuance on his arraignment until the twenty fourth of April because the day was out of town.
He wants to ask for a continuance on the restraining order too. That will be on the wight.
I sure hope the judge will grant her a permanent restraining order on the day she has to go to court.
Yesterday, he came by the house to get the rest of his stuff. He was running late and the sheriff showed up. He would not let him in in the house. He did not get the ammunition. My daughter is going to call the sheriff to see if they can help her to get rid of it.
While he was there getting his stuff, my stepdaughter,her husband, and her best friend were in the garage watching him. He tried to pull a fast one. He wanted my stepdaughter to give my daughter a note and some money. She told him that my daughter did not need him or his money. They were giving him dirty looks. They said he looked beat down but he is playing games and trying to get contact with my daughter.
So my daughter is in compliance and turned his stuff over to him. He has a junk car he needs to get rid of. It is in pieces all over the garage. She will ask her attorney what to do about getting rid of that. It is not changed into his name. I think it is legally an abandoned car by now and she can call a scrap yard to haul the whole thing away.
She found out that she can legally sell stuff to survive since she has no income.
I gave her another check today. She is so happy. Her sister and her husband are going to move in with them. This will be very good for everyone. We all see each other more now. I am in seventh heaven. The girls love it. They do not know that they will be moving in yet. It will be a surprise.
Things are looking up for us. I just hope the judge will grant the permanent restraining order.
He wants to ask for a continuance on the restraining order too. That will be on the wight.
I sure hope the judge will grant her a permanent restraining order on the day she has to go to court.
Yesterday, he came by the house to get the rest of his stuff. He was running late and the sheriff showed up. He would not let him in in the house. He did not get the ammunition. My daughter is going to call the sheriff to see if they can help her to get rid of it.
While he was there getting his stuff, my stepdaughter,her husband, and her best friend were in the garage watching him. He tried to pull a fast one. He wanted my stepdaughter to give my daughter a note and some money. She told him that my daughter did not need him or his money. They were giving him dirty looks. They said he looked beat down but he is playing games and trying to get contact with my daughter.
So my daughter is in compliance and turned his stuff over to him. He has a junk car he needs to get rid of. It is in pieces all over the garage. She will ask her attorney what to do about getting rid of that. It is not changed into his name. I think it is legally an abandoned car by now and she can call a scrap yard to haul the whole thing away.
She found out that she can legally sell stuff to survive since she has no income.
I gave her another check today. She is so happy. Her sister and her husband are going to move in with them. This will be very good for everyone. We all see each other more now. I am in seventh heaven. The girls love it. They do not know that they will be moving in yet. It will be a surprise.
Things are looking up for us. I just hope the judge will grant the permanent restraining order.
Yes, I understand the baseball bat thing. I'll bet he does also, if he knows you at ALL and probably hopes very, very much you will not be one of the people who is at that house when he comes to pick things up. Gosh Gizmo, I hope you enjoyed it all just a teny bit, how uncomfortable in the extremeeee that man must have been coming to that house. I realize I tend to laugh in all the wrong place sometimes but boy, if I had been there I just know everyone would have locked my in the bathroom because there would have been some inappropriate giggling going on.
It's REALLY lovely to stop in here on your thread and read all this happy stuff plus a family working SO much together like you folks are. It's as it should be and what a great model for those grandchildren. You and your daughters are inventing things for them which will benefit their children, cool thought, isn't it?
Not ONE of the computers in this computer-ridden house converses well with the forum or responds at all well to swearing. Hopefully the next time I'm able to crawl in here past whatever grumpy radar our internet has erected, you'll still sound so chirpy.
XX and (((((( Both kinds of hugs )))))), is that hugs squared?
It's REALLY lovely to stop in here on your thread and read all this happy stuff plus a family working SO much together like you folks are. It's as it should be and what a great model for those grandchildren. You and your daughters are inventing things for them which will benefit their children, cool thought, isn't it?
Not ONE of the computers in this computer-ridden house converses well with the forum or responds at all well to swearing. Hopefully the next time I'm able to crawl in here past whatever grumpy radar our internet has erected, you'll still sound so chirpy.
XX and (((((( Both kinds of hugs )))))), is that hugs squared?
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Thanks anni for the laughs. I needed them. My steodaughter, her husband, and my daughters best friend were in the garage giving him dirty looks.
On Monday when my daughter goes to court for the permanent restraining order, his lawyer said she was going to ask for another continuance. I hope the judge goes ahead and says yes on the restraining order. That will not look good at the trial.
I cannot believe he asked my stepdaughter if he could give a note to my daughter and some money. Geez he will do anything to try to trick her into violating the restraining order.
I cannot wait until my girls and her husband all are living together. My daughter said she is not lonely anymore. I believe in extended family when it is healthy and this family is healthy.
It will be so good for all of us. Both girls said they would be willing to come over and stay with my husband while I get out of here. It is so nice to have them only ten minutes away. I hope they find a house to rent close by.
So put in a prayer for Monday that the judge will get impatient and his lawyer does not find a loophole. That everything would go through and she would get a permanent restraining order.
He really does not have a good reason to ask for a continuance.
I was so happy when he saw that my daughter has so much support and she told him that she does not need his money or his notes or his help.
I do not know what is going through his head right now.
My daughter is going to call the sheriff for advise on how to get rid of the ammunition. She sure wants it out of there. She is also working on figuring how to get rid of his junk car in the garage.
I am so grateful for all of the good news. We deserve some good luck now. I am feeling alot better.
I hate that he will plead not guilty. It sure would be nice for when he gets arraigned that he would have a permanent restraining order against him. That stays on his record and will follow him around for the rest of his life. Hee hee. Hugs to you anni. Thank you so much for wrestling with computers to stay in touch. I hope you get the bugs worked out. Big hugs.
On Monday when my daughter goes to court for the permanent restraining order, his lawyer said she was going to ask for another continuance. I hope the judge goes ahead and says yes on the restraining order. That will not look good at the trial.
I cannot believe he asked my stepdaughter if he could give a note to my daughter and some money. Geez he will do anything to try to trick her into violating the restraining order.
I cannot wait until my girls and her husband all are living together. My daughter said she is not lonely anymore. I believe in extended family when it is healthy and this family is healthy.
It will be so good for all of us. Both girls said they would be willing to come over and stay with my husband while I get out of here. It is so nice to have them only ten minutes away. I hope they find a house to rent close by.
So put in a prayer for Monday that the judge will get impatient and his lawyer does not find a loophole. That everything would go through and she would get a permanent restraining order.
He really does not have a good reason to ask for a continuance.
I was so happy when he saw that my daughter has so much support and she told him that she does not need his money or his notes or his help.
I do not know what is going through his head right now.
My daughter is going to call the sheriff for advise on how to get rid of the ammunition. She sure wants it out of there. She is also working on figuring how to get rid of his junk car in the garage.
I am so grateful for all of the good news. We deserve some good luck now. I am feeling alot better.
I hate that he will plead not guilty. It sure would be nice for when he gets arraigned that he would have a permanent restraining order against him. That stays on his record and will follow him around for the rest of his life. Hee hee. Hugs to you anni. Thank you so much for wrestling with computers to stay in touch. I hope you get the bugs worked out. Big hugs.
Good morning Gizmo! Well, Deb told me to try updating this thing, but when I tried, this pop-up occured which stated that not only would the computer die and go annoy people in heaven but all the people already in heaven would come back and yell at me for not knowing anything about computers. I think that's what it said, all I know is that it scared the bejeesis out of me and I should not install Explorer 10, The End. My husband told me er, please don't do that, it's for the touch screen, you have Expl. 9 on there, and his unspoken words were ' Why are you in the control panel of the computer, you're giving me the willies, please stop '. Oh well, it keeps his arteries cleared out. Meanwhile, I HAVE discovered that you can navigate the forum just FINE when not logged in, so wierd. I think these green caterpillars must be wrapping around our ankles and impeding progress.
I don't know. You're daughter's a nicer person than I am, I think I'd have had the sheriff scarf up the note and moeny and return the note..... , oops. Your daughter of course took the high road since she does not require his awful bribe, plus he doesn't need one more thing to become enraged about. Mine had given me all these incredibly expensive, ridiculous things I ( honestly ) hated, then of course whined about it, like it was some obligation on my part to put up with getting punched in exchange for large diamond rings. I sold them all,dumb stuff like designer dresses, velour name brand fugly track suits, tasteless jewelry, one by one, and gave some of them away, just not wishing to have ONE THING around to remind me of him. Besides, that stupid ring alone paid for health insurance and more for an entire year, it was great! These *sswipes truly DO feel they can obligate us, too, too insulting plus it's REALLY, really grusome, cash for flesh. We fought an entire war over owning people in this country 150 years ago, it's still illegal.
I'm still hugely interested in your DA being so involved in this case. They don't always personally pop in to say hello like this one is doing, you know? Talk about not looking a gift horse in the mouth, it's a wonderful turn of events on top of all the other fortunate turn of events since this horrible thing happened. Maybe domestic violence is one of his/her 'things' and he's really annoyed, or your daughter's case is one which will be used as part of an anti-domestic violence campaign, maybe for election ( in which case boy, would this person have my vote!! ), or ( very possible ) he and his family have been a big, fat pain in the *ss so far to everyone, so they're going to be shown it's not wise to behave poorly to the powers-that-be.
I realize it's easy for me to say this, and since you have the same tendency as everyone else on this forum for our nervous system to run away with you, it's not incredibly realistic but do try not to go from zero to doom in 60 seconds or less when you think of the trial? You're talking to someone who had armed security standing behind her chair the last time I had to be in the same court room with my ex, and more along the back wall, it was a fun day. That one at one point during the proceedings put his hand on my shoulder, when the ex was blustering and it made me just shake. Poor guy, I jumped a MILE. He kept it there, though, such a good guy. The ex had shown up in battle dress, complete with green beret since he was ex special forces, I think had shook them up at the court house so they called in their big guns, literally. Anyway, no one is at all impressed by thugs and bad guys even if we tend to be. I didn't know a human could be that terrified and be alive, that day. You could not have gotten a sentence out of me, I was as much use as a bug. I did always swear no one would ever make me that scared ever, ever again. These thugs and bullies, well, his trial will cut him down to un-thug like proportions, just wait. Then he'll get to hang out in jail with all the rest of the testosterone challenged thug wanna-bes, they can all exchange their mini-underwear they bought in the little boy's section at Walmart.
Here's a hint for court day. If you take your weaponry, the guard at the door takes it from you and you don't get it back, who knew? Hee. The ONE thing I can laugh about all these years later is that my lawyer neglected to tell me not to bring my arsenol. Thank goodness the .38 was missing, or who knows what they would have done to me. The guy went through my bag, fortunately was a former parishoner in one of Dad's churches. Lord, I had REAL mace, pepper spray, a hammer and one or two things bought in areas of town you shouldn't go to alone, but which defend you nicely when you get there. Hysterical, him pulling all this stuff out of my bag. At the time I remember thinking 'Wait a minute, you want me to go in there NAKED? How is THAT going to work? " I went out the next day and replaced the arsenol, too, still have most of it.
I better shush, sorry so long! It's just that when we're all kinds of terrified and bent out of shape, it really is tormenting ourselves, you know? No one could have helped me at that time, to be sure, not one thing would have worked, I was a pre-destined mess.Your daughter's bozo has quite a few people standing on his ouchy bits already, and I truly believe is going to look incredibly silly presenting a not guilty case. I'm guessing not the brightest spark in the engine, elevator doesn't go to the top floor, lights are on but nobody's home? His lawyer thinks so, too, which is how he's getting away with talking him into all this expensive nonsense.
(((((Hugs much)))))), do take care.
I don't know. You're daughter's a nicer person than I am, I think I'd have had the sheriff scarf up the note and moeny and return the note..... , oops. Your daughter of course took the high road since she does not require his awful bribe, plus he doesn't need one more thing to become enraged about. Mine had given me all these incredibly expensive, ridiculous things I ( honestly ) hated, then of course whined about it, like it was some obligation on my part to put up with getting punched in exchange for large diamond rings. I sold them all,dumb stuff like designer dresses, velour name brand fugly track suits, tasteless jewelry, one by one, and gave some of them away, just not wishing to have ONE THING around to remind me of him. Besides, that stupid ring alone paid for health insurance and more for an entire year, it was great! These *sswipes truly DO feel they can obligate us, too, too insulting plus it's REALLY, really grusome, cash for flesh. We fought an entire war over owning people in this country 150 years ago, it's still illegal.
I'm still hugely interested in your DA being so involved in this case. They don't always personally pop in to say hello like this one is doing, you know? Talk about not looking a gift horse in the mouth, it's a wonderful turn of events on top of all the other fortunate turn of events since this horrible thing happened. Maybe domestic violence is one of his/her 'things' and he's really annoyed, or your daughter's case is one which will be used as part of an anti-domestic violence campaign, maybe for election ( in which case boy, would this person have my vote!! ), or ( very possible ) he and his family have been a big, fat pain in the *ss so far to everyone, so they're going to be shown it's not wise to behave poorly to the powers-that-be.
I realize it's easy for me to say this, and since you have the same tendency as everyone else on this forum for our nervous system to run away with you, it's not incredibly realistic but do try not to go from zero to doom in 60 seconds or less when you think of the trial? You're talking to someone who had armed security standing behind her chair the last time I had to be in the same court room with my ex, and more along the back wall, it was a fun day. That one at one point during the proceedings put his hand on my shoulder, when the ex was blustering and it made me just shake. Poor guy, I jumped a MILE. He kept it there, though, such a good guy. The ex had shown up in battle dress, complete with green beret since he was ex special forces, I think had shook them up at the court house so they called in their big guns, literally. Anyway, no one is at all impressed by thugs and bad guys even if we tend to be. I didn't know a human could be that terrified and be alive, that day. You could not have gotten a sentence out of me, I was as much use as a bug. I did always swear no one would ever make me that scared ever, ever again. These thugs and bullies, well, his trial will cut him down to un-thug like proportions, just wait. Then he'll get to hang out in jail with all the rest of the testosterone challenged thug wanna-bes, they can all exchange their mini-underwear they bought in the little boy's section at Walmart.
Here's a hint for court day. If you take your weaponry, the guard at the door takes it from you and you don't get it back, who knew? Hee. The ONE thing I can laugh about all these years later is that my lawyer neglected to tell me not to bring my arsenol. Thank goodness the .38 was missing, or who knows what they would have done to me. The guy went through my bag, fortunately was a former parishoner in one of Dad's churches. Lord, I had REAL mace, pepper spray, a hammer and one or two things bought in areas of town you shouldn't go to alone, but which defend you nicely when you get there. Hysterical, him pulling all this stuff out of my bag. At the time I remember thinking 'Wait a minute, you want me to go in there NAKED? How is THAT going to work? " I went out the next day and replaced the arsenol, too, still have most of it.
I better shush, sorry so long! It's just that when we're all kinds of terrified and bent out of shape, it really is tormenting ourselves, you know? No one could have helped me at that time, to be sure, not one thing would have worked, I was a pre-destined mess.Your daughter's bozo has quite a few people standing on his ouchy bits already, and I truly believe is going to look incredibly silly presenting a not guilty case. I'm guessing not the brightest spark in the engine, elevator doesn't go to the top floor, lights are on but nobody's home? His lawyer thinks so, too, which is how he's getting away with talking him into all this expensive nonsense.
(((((Hugs much)))))), do take care.
nursenurse
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I still remember when I had viable death threats from an ex many years ago, and I think I have already said it, but the burden of fear was lifted when I told him "I am not afraid of you anymore." I was shaking in my boots when I told him, but oddly enough, afterwards, I was relieved and less afraid. I agree with Anni that maybe you need to stay in the school zone where the traffic speeds are more moderate. It's hard not to worry, especially when it comes to our children, who are perfectly capable of handling things.
Gizmo, you are a treasure, as you are too, Anni, I enjoy reading your posts for my wisdom with a morning smile. God bless all of you :)
Gizmo, you are a treasure, as you are too, Anni, I enjoy reading your posts for my wisdom with a morning smile. God bless all of you :)
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Good morning anni. I am sad that you are still having computer problems. It takes some of the pleasure out of using it.
They should have gven the note to the sheriff. She has alot of really strong support.
Today was court, and he got another continuance. The judge was not pleased with the delay and said he will rule on this the next time so she has to wait until the twenty ninth of April to get a ruling.
He has to be arraigned on the twenty eighth. How fun for him, court two days in a row. I like this DA. He is taken this case very seriously and I am very happy about that.
Oh by the way, my stepdaughter and her husband went to court with my daughter today. She is doing so well with all of the strong support.
I am very disappointed that he got another continuance. I hate to see him get anything he wants.
I am trying not to worry. I am trying to relax and take it a day at a time.
He is a lying bully. I really hope he is digging his own grave. Thank you so much for the encouragement, hope, advice, and tips and comfort you have given me. Big hugs.
Nursenurse thank you for sharing your experiences with me. I so appreciate your courage and your strength. So far we have not gotten a threat of any kind He is trying to portray himself as a the good guy. He does not look so good, I think this is getting hard on him. Big hugs to you. I so appreciate your support.
They should have gven the note to the sheriff. She has alot of really strong support.
Today was court, and he got another continuance. The judge was not pleased with the delay and said he will rule on this the next time so she has to wait until the twenty ninth of April to get a ruling.
He has to be arraigned on the twenty eighth. How fun for him, court two days in a row. I like this DA. He is taken this case very seriously and I am very happy about that.
Oh by the way, my stepdaughter and her husband went to court with my daughter today. She is doing so well with all of the strong support.
I am very disappointed that he got another continuance. I hate to see him get anything he wants.
I am trying not to worry. I am trying to relax and take it a day at a time.
He is a lying bully. I really hope he is digging his own grave. Thank you so much for the encouragement, hope, advice, and tips and comfort you have given me. Big hugs.
Nursenurse thank you for sharing your experiences with me. I so appreciate your courage and your strength. So far we have not gotten a threat of any kind He is trying to portray himself as a the good guy. He does not look so good, I think this is getting hard on him. Big hugs to you. I so appreciate your support.
This is wierd to hear, from Nursenurse, and thank you! It is great advice, no idea why these men and our psyches respond to that. Sorry to relate a similar story on your thread Gizmo, please DO excuse? It seems maybe important only because it contains what I have always felt to be one of the crux's of the matter with this entire situation. I did that, too, telling the ex wasn't afraid of him. It was during one of those STUPID, dangerous court-ordered visitations. ( Don't get me started ) It was in a church which had volunteered for this. He was sitting on the floor, letting loose with one of his scary, threatening, swearing diatribes, blah blah, veins popping out, ugly as h*ll, baby was upset with the yelling but of course I wasn't ALLOWED to take her away, this was court ordered. ( like I said, don't get me started )For some reason allll of a sudden I got very calm, looked at this awful, fugly red face and said ( truly, NO idea why ) " You know what? I'm not afraid of your demons any more ". This is one of the scariest, eeriest things I've ever witnessed in my life. This kookball instantly, INSTANTLY turned into a human being. He stood up, spoke normally, the baby calmed down, and the rest of the visit went swimmingly, he even LOOKED different. I'm not making this up, it quite truly happened. The whole 'evil' thing, well, all I can say is that there's just something there with these people, that's all, I'm convinced.
The judge AND DA just loathe the bejeesis out of lawyers who use the system to play games. They've both seen them so, so, SO many times before that it frustrates the heck out of them, as it should! It's tax dollars being flushed down the toilet because some dirtbag is trying to get away with something he knows d*m well he did, and aided by an attorney whose only interest in cash. Judges get a little jaded, watching all this when they could be doing what they get paid to do, which is deciding REAL cases. My lawyer, who had enough darn money, apparently, cautioned me hugely on allowing the ex to get us to trial and when we got too far, managed to point the finger firmly at the responsible party. I'll be a little suprised if some of this does not come up when the judge finally gets to say something at the end of all tis.
They've also ALL seen the 'Good Guy' portrayal, with the poor me, she ran right into my fist/the wall/ she punched herself when I wasn't looking defense. It's not very popular, as a large chunk of the prison population will tell you. ALL of them have lawyers who took a long vacation in Aruba also, just ask them.
Yes, but it is terribly hard not to worry, that's what praying is for though. :) Also what hugs are for, copious hugs to you, you must be getting "8" shaped, everyone hugging you and squishing you in the middle!
ps OH NOOOOO! I have the news on, I just saw a story where Cookie Monster shoved a 3 year old, what is the world coming to? Whoa, huh? Well, we know why the continent is tipping, all the lawyers are running to that part of the world, swarming.
The judge AND DA just loathe the bejeesis out of lawyers who use the system to play games. They've both seen them so, so, SO many times before that it frustrates the heck out of them, as it should! It's tax dollars being flushed down the toilet because some dirtbag is trying to get away with something he knows d*m well he did, and aided by an attorney whose only interest in cash. Judges get a little jaded, watching all this when they could be doing what they get paid to do, which is deciding REAL cases. My lawyer, who had enough darn money, apparently, cautioned me hugely on allowing the ex to get us to trial and when we got too far, managed to point the finger firmly at the responsible party. I'll be a little suprised if some of this does not come up when the judge finally gets to say something at the end of all tis.
They've also ALL seen the 'Good Guy' portrayal, with the poor me, she ran right into my fist/the wall/ she punched herself when I wasn't looking defense. It's not very popular, as a large chunk of the prison population will tell you. ALL of them have lawyers who took a long vacation in Aruba also, just ask them.
Yes, but it is terribly hard not to worry, that's what praying is for though. :) Also what hugs are for, copious hugs to you, you must be getting "8" shaped, everyone hugging you and squishing you in the middle!
ps OH NOOOOO! I have the news on, I just saw a story where Cookie Monster shoved a 3 year old, what is the world coming to? Whoa, huh? Well, we know why the continent is tipping, all the lawyers are running to that part of the world, swarming.
Eleanor
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OR... you could be glad he's pissed off the judge! Give him enough rope, he'll hang himself.
Of course, when you HAVE no case to present it can take an AWFULLY LONG TIME to put it together. Curious, that.
(((((((Gizmo))))))
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anni, there must be incredible power in telling your abuser that you are not afraid of them anymore. I am awfully glad you had that empowering experience with your abuser. I am also surprised at how hearing that changed him.
I hope my daughter has the chance to tell her husband that at some point.
I am so tired of it being dragged out. He has to pay his attorney and I know that they are expensive and this gives me pleasure to think he has to pay and pay.
It is ridiculous how he has managed to stretch it out. I am relieved that he has not threatened her and that he is staying away and leaving her alone.
Her spirits are up having her sister and her husband living with her. They are really positive people and they all laugh alot. They keep her company and she is not lonely anymore.
I am glad that the judge is impatient with her husband with the continuance.
I am so sick and fed up with his lies. That is all he has. A bunch of lies. Your words about prisoners and lawyers comforted me.
I cannot wait until this goes to goes to court again. Surely he will only hurt himself, he was so silent on the fact that his knuckles were so red and swollen.
Mabe in the end if we are lucky, the jury will find him guilty. He has lost everything he had and all he has are lies. But he does not have access to his guns and he has to stay far away from my daughter and the girls. He knows she has friends and family. She is not broken down anymore. Her no to him is being enforced. I cannot wait for my daughter to get a court date for the divorce.
I am doing so much better these days. We have come along way. Your wise words comfort me and remind me of what is real.
I hope he goes to jail. I hope he gets a dishonorable discharge from the army. His parents are so proud of him. I am so very happy that they are staying away and leaving her alone too. She does not need crap from them.
Big hugs to you anni. You are wonderful
Eleanor, you are right. He did piss off the judge. I will hang onto that fact. Hugs to you.
I hope my daughter has the chance to tell her husband that at some point.
I am so tired of it being dragged out. He has to pay his attorney and I know that they are expensive and this gives me pleasure to think he has to pay and pay.
It is ridiculous how he has managed to stretch it out. I am relieved that he has not threatened her and that he is staying away and leaving her alone.
Her spirits are up having her sister and her husband living with her. They are really positive people and they all laugh alot. They keep her company and she is not lonely anymore.
I am glad that the judge is impatient with her husband with the continuance.
I am so sick and fed up with his lies. That is all he has. A bunch of lies. Your words about prisoners and lawyers comforted me.
I cannot wait until this goes to goes to court again. Surely he will only hurt himself, he was so silent on the fact that his knuckles were so red and swollen.
Mabe in the end if we are lucky, the jury will find him guilty. He has lost everything he had and all he has are lies. But he does not have access to his guns and he has to stay far away from my daughter and the girls. He knows she has friends and family. She is not broken down anymore. Her no to him is being enforced. I cannot wait for my daughter to get a court date for the divorce.
I am doing so much better these days. We have come along way. Your wise words comfort me and remind me of what is real.
I hope he goes to jail. I hope he gets a dishonorable discharge from the army. His parents are so proud of him. I am so very happy that they are staying away and leaving her alone too. She does not need crap from them.
Big hugs to you anni. You are wonderful
Eleanor, you are right. He did piss off the judge. I will hang onto that fact. Hugs to you.
Hi Gizmo,
I made time to come here to the forum on purpose because all h*ll is breaking loose in my neck of the woods. I sometimes laugh with another member here, how we come here to find normal people, to a mental health forum because everyone out here is crazy. You're not just normal, you're extremely compassionate, so please don't let that bother you, that I said all h*ll is breaking loose here. It's just my crazy sister and her incomprehensively, ( truly, you can't fathom it, can't wrap your head around it ) bizarrely mean daughter playing games with my mother. My 'niece' ( I say that in quotes because one of us was switched at the hospital, there's just no way we're related ) is pregnant with another greatgrandchild my mother will never get to see altho they live 8 miles away. No one told us, and of course it's pasted all over FB, with links to make sure my mother sees the other grandparents gushing over it. Anyway, long, ugly, ugly story. It's also even more bizarre since my sister believes in karma so what the h*ll kind of house is going to drop on her head I have no idea, but thank God she doesn't come near me. I'd get hit, too. It's going to be a bigger house than Dorothy's witch got. I wish you could meet my Mom. Your blood pressure would drop 40 points just being in the same room, and when I say she's never done a rotten thing to anyone in her life, nor said a mean thing it's the truth, with zero exceptions. Oh my. I DO hope the sister does not venture onto my property any time soon. She wisely got swine flu the other day, or am assuming it was pig fever, and stayed away.
Anyway, did not mean to pollute your thread, just was explaining why it's nice to come here for the kind company and the balance.
For what it's worth, and please do not bank on this, I'd have to guess that your local swine there will be found guilty. I realize the prisons are crowded but there's a pot smoker in there right now who will be eyeing his freedom as soon as this judge decides to make a swap for another kind of criminal. As a danger to society, no brainer there, huh? The swine will certainly go beat up more women unless locked away. The pot smoker might bruise a tree or two walking into it, otherwise pretty harmless. We have lots of trees.
You DO sound wonderful, actually, good for you and all of you! There's a decent amount of hard work on all your parts to have goten this far into Peace, so enjoy
XXXOOOO
I made time to come here to the forum on purpose because all h*ll is breaking loose in my neck of the woods. I sometimes laugh with another member here, how we come here to find normal people, to a mental health forum because everyone out here is crazy. You're not just normal, you're extremely compassionate, so please don't let that bother you, that I said all h*ll is breaking loose here. It's just my crazy sister and her incomprehensively, ( truly, you can't fathom it, can't wrap your head around it ) bizarrely mean daughter playing games with my mother. My 'niece' ( I say that in quotes because one of us was switched at the hospital, there's just no way we're related ) is pregnant with another greatgrandchild my mother will never get to see altho they live 8 miles away. No one told us, and of course it's pasted all over FB, with links to make sure my mother sees the other grandparents gushing over it. Anyway, long, ugly, ugly story. It's also even more bizarre since my sister believes in karma so what the h*ll kind of house is going to drop on her head I have no idea, but thank God she doesn't come near me. I'd get hit, too. It's going to be a bigger house than Dorothy's witch got. I wish you could meet my Mom. Your blood pressure would drop 40 points just being in the same room, and when I say she's never done a rotten thing to anyone in her life, nor said a mean thing it's the truth, with zero exceptions. Oh my. I DO hope the sister does not venture onto my property any time soon. She wisely got swine flu the other day, or am assuming it was pig fever, and stayed away.
Anyway, did not mean to pollute your thread, just was explaining why it's nice to come here for the kind company and the balance.
For what it's worth, and please do not bank on this, I'd have to guess that your local swine there will be found guilty. I realize the prisons are crowded but there's a pot smoker in there right now who will be eyeing his freedom as soon as this judge decides to make a swap for another kind of criminal. As a danger to society, no brainer there, huh? The swine will certainly go beat up more women unless locked away. The pot smoker might bruise a tree or two walking into it, otherwise pretty harmless. We have lots of trees.
You DO sound wonderful, actually, good for you and all of you! There's a decent amount of hard work on all your parts to have goten this far into Peace, so enjoy
XXXOOOO
Eleanor
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Gizmo - remember there are no guarantees for anyone in life. And the big difference for people who get into abusive situations and get out and heal relatively quickly and those who don't manage to is the core sense of self PLUS effective backup. You and your family are backing up your daughter now, and you gave her that sense as a kid - so it is going to be ok. I don't know what the twists and turns will be between here and OK - but you all will get there.
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