General My Husband is a Honorably Discharged Marine

[mongeau_dec08]

I don't know what else to do. He refuses to deal with anything. Some times I feel like shooting myself in the head with all of the stress. I have no family and now I have no friends. Everyone of them says that having this stress disorder is just an excuse to act the way that he does. I know this not to be true. Things have gotten much better since we have been together. However, he has starting going back to things and I am not sure what to do. He stopped seeing his councilor and the cycle is starting agine. I do not want to give up on him because he has made changes to help himself. I need to know what I can do to help him stop this before this one goes out of control and how I can get him back into the councilors office? Even thou I do not want to give up on him I am starting to feel that I need to leave him....I have already lost so much. Help!

 

[her_indoors43]

:Hug_emoticon:you found the right place to start looking for help....theres so many helpful peolpe in here....alot of reading....and alot of help and support..can you get your partner in here as well....he will find other marines an military folk in here as well who will relate and be of help to him bigtime as well .....glad you found this forum......:wink:......:Hug_emoticon:welcome mongeau..and hubby

 

[Ruth09]

Is his councelor with VA? Through Tricare? How about the Vet Center? These are three options for counseling,...

I went to the Vet Center, got turned away, because they original said that Bosnia didn't count. However, they called me back and said it actually did. So, I'm presently seeing them. And it has been helping. I haven't tried tricare, but there are some on this board that have.

I have tried VA and unfortunately,...my experience was terrible. After 8 months of seeking help, and getting blown off by counselors/therapists/primary care managers, I could understand why Vets snap. However,...it took a lot of strength,...and a lot of trips to the VA ER,.... when I just about gave up,... I finally got a Dr. that knew what they were doing. However,... VA is still (my experience) only interested in medication and not therapy. But,.. medication has taken the edge off.

And yeah,... I grew up in the military that there is a stigma attached to seeking help. If you seek help, you believe that you are weak. And if you are an NCO, your soldiers will see you as weak. Its the way of the military. This perceived weakness would let your buddies know that you have let them down and are no longer a battle buddy.
As it was, I didn't seek help until after I retired and I could no longer cope. My "support group" of peers was no longer around.

If he doesn't want help,... he isn't gonna seek it. But, if you do the research into groups that offer support,... maybe he would take you up on trying them out.

Also,.. Have you spoken to this counselor he has been seeing? Maybe, if this counselor hears your side, more options for help may open up.

Just some thoughts,...

Ruth