Hi all, I am new to this and I am seeking some help, understanding ands some support.
My husband was an active soldier in the militarty for 10 years. the horrific details he has talked to me about (with much reluctansy) was hard for me as a civillian to understand the trauma and stress these experiences must have caused him.
He was in the Australian Army prior to meeting me, we married some 2.5 years later and we now have 3 children and have currently been married for 6 years and together 9.
I have always know that he is a good man and his outbursts must be caused by something else. He used to try and strangle me in his sleep when we first met, he would wake up in sweats and he still to this day does not sleep properly. He has tried self management of something I haven't understood nor would he talk to me about and then I started seeing a phycotherapist whobrought to my attention that my husband is highly likely suffering with PTSD. After lots of reading he fits every bill. I tried to discuss this with him and he saw a therapist once and then said i'm not paying anyone to talk about what I already know.
Just recently I was pregnant with our 3rd child and our sceond son when my husband comitted the unthinkable. He had sex with an astranged women who had shown interest and talked very dirty to him over the internet. I have since found he had a sring of women that he would talk to general and sexuall over the email.
He said he realised that he was doing wrong but only now, only that he has been caught and is about to loose everything we have every shared.
It's so hard beacuse I love him so incredibly even when he has done this and I can't help but feel sorry for him, he has know one but me and the kids, no friends and even his own mum and dad are disgusted with him. He blames his mental issues and wants to seek councilling for him and then for us. Has anyone been unfortunate enough to also experience infidellity with there husbands or wives that has gone back and helped them and understood why. He says it wasn't because he didn't love me, his mind was in state that he couldn't escape from and this lady was handing it out?? Makes me feel sick but i'm not ready to give up on the last 9 years, I wish it was as easy as switchingh off your feelings - but I cant.
Please Help me.
My husband was an active soldier in the militarty for 10 years. the horrific details he has talked to me about (with much reluctansy) was hard for me as a civillian to understand the trauma and stress these experiences must have caused him.
He was in the Australian Army prior to meeting me, we married some 2.5 years later and we now have 3 children and have currently been married for 6 years and together 9.
I have always know that he is a good man and his outbursts must be caused by something else. He used to try and strangle me in his sleep when we first met, he would wake up in sweats and he still to this day does not sleep properly. He has tried self management of something I haven't understood nor would he talk to me about and then I started seeing a phycotherapist whobrought to my attention that my husband is highly likely suffering with PTSD. After lots of reading he fits every bill. I tried to discuss this with him and he saw a therapist once and then said i'm not paying anyone to talk about what I already know.
Just recently I was pregnant with our 3rd child and our sceond son when my husband comitted the unthinkable. He had sex with an astranged women who had shown interest and talked very dirty to him over the internet. I have since found he had a sring of women that he would talk to general and sexuall over the email.
He said he realised that he was doing wrong but only now, only that he has been caught and is about to loose everything we have every shared.
It's so hard beacuse I love him so incredibly even when he has done this and I can't help but feel sorry for him, he has know one but me and the kids, no friends and even his own mum and dad are disgusted with him. He blames his mental issues and wants to seek councilling for him and then for us. Has anyone been unfortunate enough to also experience infidellity with there husbands or wives that has gone back and helped them and understood why. He says it wasn't because he didn't love me, his mind was in state that he couldn't escape from and this lady was handing it out?? Makes me feel sick but i'm not ready to give up on the last 9 years, I wish it was as easy as switchingh off your feelings - but I cant.
Please Help me.
