I think that is so true @abovedown , thank you for your words. I think the hardest is when people don't respect boundaries and it's something like a Boss. Or mistaking how can I do it, and still be loving for family. Or how can I do it for people who are not friends but try try to identify as such, but rather bullies such as some co-workers or acquaintances and I am outnumbered. I find it easy when people respect each other, as long as I am aware of what it is they need. And to live and let live, though that is painful when you are privy to watching someone hurting themself.