Sufferer My neighbor broke both my legs

[Sideways]

I'm looking for positive, creative ways to vent my rage as my legs don't work now.

Art. I found art therapy immensely helpful for unhelpful emotions (like resentment). Some people choose the creative arts while others go down the musical path. Both can be very powerful.

Don’t give up fighting on your own behalf. But distinguish between that and resentment, which doesn’t have anything like the motivational power of well-channeled anger.

 

[Sanctuary]

"Don't give up fighting on your behalf" Thank you sideways.
I seek justice. For a full statement to be taken by police, as no cctv.

Myself and my therapist have put in a complaint yesterday at how the case was handled.

Art is an excellent idea sideways. I can be in my garden on my crutches, and sit on a chair with the other leg on stool and paint trellis.
I will paint everything in sight!

I have a 4-year fashion degree and sew, it is still really hard to try to push the foot peddle down with my right leg, but more ideas are welcome!
I also used to sketch fashion.

Swimming was also suggested, which is a great idea to help me learn to walk without sticks, but have to check it out with health and safety and have a lifeguard they said.

I've been referred back to physio.

I adore my garden and when I fall over as I'm always dropping my crutches, I get back up!

More creative ways to channel anger help. Thank you

 

[Friday]

Either you live in a country where you can press charges… or you don’t.

If you don’t, you live in a country where you can wait to seek vengeance, or someone else can, or not.

I’m not seeing the disconnect?

Unless you live in a country where you CAN press charges, and they’ve said it’s not your neighbors fault… so you’re floundering?

 

[Sanctuary]

Yes, i pressed charges for GBH.

I was told that there was no CCTV evidence of the incident, and no witness at the time.
The downstairs neighbor lied to the police.
It was my word against hers so not enough evidence to take to court.
I am currently in the process of making a formal complaint to the police so I can give my statement.
which is a basic human right.

 

[João]

I'm a DV survivor and I can tell you that justice is very hard to make given the complexity of how it is made. I've been mistreated by my coworkers in the times I was trying to run from DV and people do not care if you suffered any trauma. They will just treat you like garbage if they have the opportunity. It is very unfair and I still suffer a lot from resentment as I still work with them and remember all that they did to me, besides having to work with them as I don't have anywhere else to go. So I just try to stay away from them and ignore them as much as I can but always in mind that they are the real garbage and do not deserve anything that they have due to being such low profile people. Also, I cannot make a complaint against them because I don't have recorded evidences and it would be my word against their and since i?m just one, I would lose in court. So, what I can tell you is that you need to stay away from that people. You will not win anything by trying your revenge. The best revenge you can do is to show them that you can go up on life without them and higher than them

 

[Sanctuary]

Thank you Joao for your words of wisdom, I'm so sorry you had to go through DV. My heart goes out to you.

Yes, one person's word against another is almost impossible to prove without cctv proof.
But I will still seek justice, for someone to be held accountable for their actions, even if it just means they are questioned properly by police.

As for revenge, " my revenge will be to walk again and get my life back.
To be able to drive again feels like it will be a distant miracle.

My rage earlier got so bad, that I lifted my crutches and walked my first 4 steps after 6months!
I will not let this beat me!
It felt like walking on metal stilts from the knee down ( the 2 titanium plates and bracket and screws in the knee)
I've got the heat pad on it now and had to take a couple of painkillers.

I am looking for positive ways to harness that anger for the better.
I'm going back to physiotherapy.

Do you believe in karma in situations where you have been unfairly wronged?
I'm interested to hear people's views on karma.

 

[littleoc]

I feel you. When my sister was raped by her ex husband, she called the police. During the rape, my sister had slapped her ex in the face as self defense. The cops told her this was technically assault, and they'd have to arrest her for 24 hours. And then they did. The ex took their son and went to his mom's house. No legal punishment.

Not even the worst things cops have done to "help" my community.

I hope you can charge for assault, even without great evidence. Recently I was accused of shoplifting (I didn't) and found guilty without being allowed to make a statement. Maybe you'll be able to get the other party arrested and found guilty without them getting a chance, lol

Though, even jail can be wild. My father once attempted to murder my mother and was only scheduled to be in jail for 48 hours -- until his buddy bailed him out about 8 hours in.

Maybe the nice neighbor could be a good witness for your case?

Or, maybe court would aggravate that other neighbor worse and not be worth the trouble.

I wish you luck and justice, but don't forget that spite can be justice. Even if police and court systems don't believe you, you can thrive despite what's happened and be a happier person than a crazy person who obviously can't be happy being normal.

 

[Sanctuary]

Thank you for your words littleoc.

I was shocked and saddened by the injustices you have encountered.

 

[João]

Thank you Joao for your words of wisdom, I'm so sorry you had to go through DV. My heart goes out to you.

Yes, one person's word against another is almost impossible to prove without cctv proof.
But I will still seek justice, for someone to be held accountable for their actions, even if it just means they are questioned properly by police.

As for revenge, " my revenge will be to walk again and get my life back.
To be able to drive again feels like it will be a distant miracle.

My rage earlier got so bad, that I lifted my crutches and walked my first 4 steps after 6months!
I will not let this beat me!
It felt like walking on metal stilts from the knee down ( the 2 titanium plates and bracket and screws in the knee)
I've got the heat pad on it now and had to take a couple of painkillers.

I am looking for positive ways to harness that anger for the better.
I'm going back to physiotherapy.

Do you believe in karma in situations where you have been unfairly wronged?
I'm interested to hear people's views on karma.

You welcome! I hope you recover fast and safely and also be able to walk again soon in order to have your life back the way it was.

To answer your question, I don't believe in karma. I believe that people are the only means to make justice as we live all in community and society and should all follow rules dictated by human beings. Therefore, justice must be made by people decisions and the best decision you can make is to try to have a better life than before. That is justice for you and a great slap in the face of the person who did that to you. Keep going strong!

 

[Sanctuary]

How weird as I believe that too!

 

[Sanctuary]

So my anger has lessened to sadness.
I've been referred back to physios.
My parents are ill one has COPD. I was praying that physios could do a Zoom/ teams video call, or it would take me 2hours there and 2 hours back. Fingers crossed hope to do online treatment

I'm really embarrassed about something. I am trying to learn to walk again and I have taken a few steps but I'm limping badly
It makes me feel like a cripple.

Has anyone experienced this without judgment?

My right leg is full of 2 titanium plates and screws.
I was a dancer when I was young ( 11 ) and all my life and not being able to dance has just broken my soul.

 

[Sanctuary]

I was shot and lost my leg. Still pissed about having to pay to walk and the dirt bag that did it is out of prison walking fine and not paying my bills. It's been 25 years.

Can you give me some insight so I can learn from you/ With humble thanks.