My therapist is a sociopath and he doesn't help me

[Gs172003]

What if he actually is one though? And I know the traits of a sociopath and they all apply to him so...

Would you feel more comfortable with a woman?

I can't do this kind of therapy with a man. I just can't. I wouldn't trust him no matter how great he is. Maybe that's what is what's going on with you?

 

[Suzetig]

I'm 18 and I find it unhelpful because he never speaks about the sexual assault and doesn't talk about PTSD or anything like that which would seem appropriate considering my trauma :/.

Have you talked to him about the sexual assault? What happens when you bring it up or say that's what you want to work on?

What were you hospitalised for, was it in relation to your trauma?

 

[Deleted member 45588]

Has there been anyone you've worked with in mental health that you've felt has been beneficial at all? If so, can you think about what it was about them that you found helped?

To be honest, none so far have helped.

Would you feel more comfortable with a woman?

. Maybe that's what is what's going on with you?

I think you raised a good point and I think this may be part of why I don't like him.

What happens when you bring it up

What were you hospitalised for, was it in relation to your trauma?

He kind of just shuts me down when I talk about it, even though he says I can talk about it more...

I was hospitalized due to being ''psychotic'' and angry but I don't believe I ever was psychotic 0_0. On the report cards they couldn't cite any symptoms of schizophrenia or psychosis or whatever in me other than me having ''flattened affect'' and lying when say I used a metaphor they would write about me as if I was hallucinating that metaphor. They also sabotaged my doctor's notes with stupid slander saying ''I can't take it when other people have different opinions and I have delusions that I have PTSD''. I don't know how they freaking managed to do that, or why they lie about me being psychotic, but yeah, geez. These people associated with the institution won't leave me freaking alone, I'm hoping when I get discharged after playing it cool with my therapist they'll all be gone for good. I feel so harassed and unsafe because of these people.

 

[joeylittle]

I think all the other therapists working in the area with him are sociopaths too, just based off a horrible experience in a mental health ward.

Statistically, this is highly unlikely.

And I know the traits of a sociopath and they all apply to him so I'm sure it's not just me. This is precisely how sociopaths get away with stuff - no one believes you because they're so darned cunning and charming

Sorry, no. I would say, based on what you've written, that you are inclined to leap to 'sociopath' as the label for a really wide range of behaviors. I honestly don't believe you can trust your gut on understanding his mental health, and I do think trying to go forward with any kind of complaint to the police without him having done something tangible, is not going to help you in the short or long term.

(FYI, sociopaths and psychopaths = Antisocial Personality Disorder, but sociopaths are the chaotic and eruptive ones. Psychopaths are the charming manipulative ones. They are easy to get backwards)

It's always got to be OK to listen to your instincts, when you are uncomfortable. But - sometimes those instincts are being fueled by symptoms. You're the only one who can really know, until you find someone outside of you that you trust, who can also be a sort of 'outside eye' on your own behavior and thought patterns. Some of that you can get here, on the forum - not so much because you'll trust people, more because there's such a wide range of opinions...so when certain observations seem to rise to the top, things that lots of different people observe - that can sometimes be really useful. Always depends on the situation, the number of different opinions you get to weigh against each other.

He kind of just shuts me down when I talk about it, even though he says I can talk about it more...

Can you talk more about this? If he says you can talk about it more, what is he saying or doing that shuts you down? Or, is it more that you shut down in his presence? And if so, can you write more about why?

 

[EveHarrington]

Have you actually been diagnosed with PTSD?

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I have been around most likely psychopaths. I am positive (as is my therapist) that my step dad was most likely a, or very damn close to a, psychopath. Rest assured, your therapist sounds nothing like a pschopath.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Did you get assigned to this therapist by anyone that you know? I wonder who picked this one for you.

I am glad that you will be ending soon.:hug:

 

[Deleted member 45588]

but sociopaths are the chaotic and eruptive ones. Psychopaths are the charming manipulative ones. They are easy to get backwards)
If he says you can talk about it more, what is he saying or doing that shuts you down? Or, is it more that you shut down in his presence? And if so, can you write more about why?

To the best of my knowledge psychopath and sociopath is interchangeable, but I will watch using the terms now since I didn't know they were different. He definitely has Aspd, that is for sure because he fits all the traits. This is partially instinct I will admit, but it can't be a coincidence he fits all the traits of ASPD.

I know they are only a short percentage of the population but that's still a lot of people, and I don't believe they are randomly together, I believe they have met on purpose.

That's my mums way of describing it, that he just shuts me down. Idk what she means by this much either, but he basically makes it so I don't talk about it. He says we've got to do other things in the session basically.

Rest assured, your therapist sounds nothing like a pschopath.

That's the whole thing though, if someone is said to be not a sociopath then its likely they are one because the reality is they are freaking good at hiding it. Just out of curiosity, why don't you think he's a sociopath?

Did you get assigned to this therapist by anyone that you know? I wonder who picked this one for you.

I am glad that you will be ending soon.:hug:

He's associated with me being institutionalized so he could be to do with them, maybe they picked him. Yup, I just have to be patient for it to be over.

Have you actually been diagnosed with PTSD?

Nope never, but no fair assessment has been made to weigh up the possibilities at all. Only diagnosis they have given me is 'psychosis' so I don't really trust them in that area for a good reason. I think it's ridiculous writing that I have a 'delusion' I have PTSD because there's still a chance of me being right about it, we'll never know unless a proper assessment is carried out. Since when did psychotic people have delusions of having random mental illnesses? It's just nonsense -.-.

Not forgetting that on the doctor's notes they wrote that I lied about being sexually assaulted and that it was part of me being 'psychotic'. Since when did psychotic people make allegations like that? I freaking hate these people, they basically victim-blamed me.

 

[Friday]

Since when did psychotic people make allegations like that? I freaking hate these people, they basically victim-blamed me.

Actually, that’s one of the most common things to happen in psychosis... people very honestly believing they’re being assaulted, raped, or someone is trying to kill them... when they’re not. Very clearly not. Like in a room full of witnesses, on film, someone touches their arm & they believe that person has just tried to kill them, rape then, or break their arm.

 

[Suzetig]

Since when did psychotic people have delusions of having random mental illnesses? It's just nonsense -.-.

To be honest, it's pretty common. Psychosis takes a lot of different forms, it's not always the traditional idea of someone who sees things etc it's about an altered state of reality. One of the scary things in psychosis is that things feel very real but aren't actually happening. Which means it always feels like someone is trying to manipulate you or call you a liar.

It's unlikely that in the short space of time you're in session, with as little that therapists generally reveal about themselves, that you could see "every trait" of sociopathology. Specialists making an assessed diagnosis struggle to be definitive so it's not likely you could particularly in the absence or training that would qualify you to make such an assessment.

I hear your frustration and disagreement with his assessment of you and yes, if he thinks your sexual assault is a symptom of psychosis rather than having really happened, he isn't going to give it much space in session. It's so hard when your sense of reality is so different to what others are telling you.

 

[Deleted member 45588]

Actually, that’s one of the most common things to happen in psychosis... .

Well I was not aware of this at all, but I learned something new but I never lied about that sexual assault.

 

[Suzetig]

What do you think your T means when he says you have psychosis?