My Therapist Wont Let Go!

[Moey]

I have been going to see a psychologist that was assigned to me by the insurance company for exposure theraphy for my car accidents.

I have not been feeling very comfortable with him for a while. He comes up with things like "let's practice you stabbing me to get your anger out" and other strange requests.

Recently he had an operation and left me a long message on my cell about how much pain he was in and that they wouldn't let him leave the hospital until he pied so it took him all day. I felt uncomfortable with that information.

He asked me to call him went he went on vacation a couple of weeks ago and I decided to end the theraphy so I sent him an email thanking him for his time (he has been doing the sessions free for the last 6 months) and saying that I was not going to come back.

He then emailed me and said that he had been thinking about me on while he was on vacation and that he still wanted to see me. Last Friday he left me a message reminding me of our appointment that afternoon which I didn't go to. I emailed him back and said I assumed he understand from my last email that I was coming back.

He email and said he still wanted to see me and left another message on my cell yesterday saying he had booked another appointment for this Friday.

What am I doing wrong? He is making me very nervous! I have a hard time from my childhood hurting people and he says he will be very dissapointed if I don't come back.

Any advice on how to make this end or am I making too much out of itl.

Would appreciate any comments you might have from your experiences or just advice on how you would handle it.

 

[Nicolette]

From what you have written it sounds like he has an attraction to you and is using therapy as an excuse.

Listen to your instincts and take care!

 

[becvan]

Don't go back, ever. I would look into lodging a complaint against his license. He is acting very inappropriately, highly unprofessional and very much that he has a crush on you. If you can keep a record of the calls, and even the messages he's leaving you so you have proof.

Wish you the best,
bec

 

[Deleted member 541]

I agree, actually I will go further.. He sounds like a nut job!!!!!! I would report him immediately, email him again and firmly tell him to leave you alone. If he continues to bother you, call the police!!!!!!


He is totally out of bounds here, inappropriate, not professional and weird!!!!

 

[kers]

Yep, totally unprofessional. Don't answer his calls or reply to his e-mails, but keep copies and records of his contact with you.

A good therapist will respect your wish to end therapy. A good therapist will not pursue you, nor will a good therapist call you up or disclose personal information (unless it is beneficial to you).

 

[2quilt]

I agree with all that has been advised. I would also tell the insurance company that hired him to see you. Don't leave out any creepy information, they need to hear it all so they don't hire this nutbar again. The state psychologist department needs to know too.

 

[linasmom]

Agree, agree, agree. Creepy and just totally unprofessional. Good luck, Moey!

 

[rallynut78]

"let's practice you stabbing me to get your anger out"?????????


WTF:eek: what is that supposed to be?
run away and don't look back. is he a therapist or the rapist? (sorry i can't resist a good pun) It's funny how the most screwed up people end up majoring in psychology as if they are trying to figure their own junk out.

 

[Marlene]

Adding my voice to the chorus here. Don't go back! Find another therapist to help you out and stay away from this guy.

I tried to imagine what it would like to be in this situation with my therapist and all I could do was shudder and feel creeped out. Go with your gut here!

Lisa

 

[void]

:hello:There is a predator/stalker vibe to this piece of s##t and I suspect he is using his knowledge of psychology and your specific history to manipulate you.

ANYONE that would do that to you is dangerous!!!!!!!!!!!!

We are for you, he is against you.:smile:

Please update us!

 

[lrs]

Amen !!!
This guy sounds like a total jerk.
You need to drop kick that sucker through the goal posts of life.

 

[Ymozzy]

i have had many difficult situations with therapist some not professional others not well equipped. my current therapist is a highly accredited individual who has shared with me, that the field of psychology/psychiatry is inundated with those with many problems. so your experience is not uncommon unfortunately.

i would suggest to no longer reply to his solicitations. you have clearly stated your position. however it probably would be helpful for you to find a therapist that was well grounded and professional in their field that you could begin working with again.

i have shared in another reply that it took me 23 years to find a therapist that could sort my situation out for me. i had a few therapist along the way that behaved in error. many were quite good but not trained to understand how to help my characteristics. even when you find a therapist that is excellent in the field, still they may not have all the tools that could help. so do not give up, but do get away from this person and do not feel ill at ease about doing so.